I think family is sticky. You can love them fiercely and that fuels the
frustration you feel as you watch them make decisions that don't seem to make
sense. I have a sister like that. To be honest, it was easier to think that her
decisions are her decisions before her kids were born. Now, it's even tougher,
but I try to rest in God's sovereignty.
Also, sometimes I get really cynical about my sister's decisions or comments,
and Geoff brings me back to trying to rejoice w/ her in the good things. It's
not easy. All I can say is that I can empathize to a certain degree.
On Friday, June 21, 2019, 8:26:34 PM CDT, Elizabeth Lovelace
<dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Maybe you see it as having your family pray, and she sees it as something
else. You're different people and have different perspectives of the
situation.I understand you're fearful, and I'm sorry for that. Can I add, her
being single doesn't require her to be in contact with her family any more than
a married person. I still believe it's down to personality and relationships.
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On Fri, Jun 21, 2019 at 8:20 PM, James Brabson<thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Side note - I don't know if any of you are friends with Amy, but please don't
say anything. What I am struggling with is why wouldn't you want your family to
pray for you. It has nothing to do with advice. Maybe you single ladies can
help me work through this. I totally agree with you Liz that she has to make
her mistakes. I told Carrie the same thing, but it is hard when she is so
trusting of people and hate to say it clueless when it comes to life and almost
puts her life in danger. My prayer is that there will be someone at this
church that will come along side her to be the friend that would keep her from
doing something dangerous (If that makes sense).
On June 21, 2019, at 8:53 PM, Elizabeth Lovelace <dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
At some point she needs to be allowed to live her life and make her mistakes.
She is 40, after all. Nobody is responsible for her but herself. If she doesn't
want to run things past your parents, that's her prerogative. I'm sorry she's
hurting people, and that could be communicated without the additional "you
should tell us what you're doing."
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On Fri, Jun 21, 2019 at 7:41 PM, James Brabson<thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
I am referring to my sister Amy. She is not living at home. She was contacted
by a Pastor (graduated with Amy) about moving to MN to teach. Side note - Amy
is not known for making wise decisions. She makes decisions on what feels
good\makes her happy. So it must be God's will. James and I found out 2 weeks
before my parents that she was contacted by Sam. Amy wanted to see if we knew
anything about the church. We didn't know she had waited to tell them till she
made the decision. I commented to her, Mom and Dad love you and are wise godly
people.I would want them praying for me as I made the decision. She got upset
at me and it went right over her head. I understand she is 40 and needs to make
decisions on her own, but to not want your parent's praying for you or even
saying hey I was contacted and am thinking about it. I don't understand it, it
thought maybe that is me. James and I still call our parents about
somethings. I am trying to work though should I be upset or is it because of
what is typed below.
I found out later, Carrie, after I talked to Amy had confronted Amy about her
disrespect for Mom and Dad. It has been going on for a long time. It has gotten
to the point people are asking Carrie whats going on between Dad and Amy.
Carrie said Amy was clueless and still doesn't believe she treats them with
disrespect. I will be honest it makes me mad to personally see how she treats
mom and dad when they have gone over and beyond for her. I am personally afraid
that she will lose touch with us when she moves to MN and we won't know what is
going on in her life. When Amy lived in MI 2 years ago, an hour and a half
from us. she had a wonderful pastor and pastors wife that kept us informed and
kept Amy out of trouble.
On June 21, 2019, at 4:24 PM, Pamela Smith <dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I'm a verbal processor, so I need to talk things out with someone. When I was
single, it was usually w/ my mom. My poor husband has to listen to it now. For
the most part, I would talk through it, and then come to a decision. Like Liz
said, I think it depends on the person, where they live (on their own or with
their parents), and the depth of the decisions. Not all parents give great
advice, so sometimes it's better to inform than to seek their counsel.Pam
On Friday, June 21, 2019, 1:55:59 PM CDT, James Brabson
<thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Have a question for you single ladies, but would like input from anyone. How
much council did you get from family . when making life changes or even
informing family ?1. Did you get council from family. 2. talk it through with
your family(not really for council,but to inform. 3. Wait until you've made
your decision. I would primarily be talking about parents.
