Renee, being a good wife and a good mom at the same time is tough! Both
pull so much and honestly need so much depending on the time period. It's
stretching trying to figure it all out. I have found that just admitting
that I'm trying and that I haven't forgotten has helped. :) And as the wee
ones get not so wee and you get to SLEEP again, it can get better. I think
it also helps to know what makes your spouse feel most loved so that you
spend your energy there and not on a lot of stuff that he doesn't care
about. I'm still working on this one. Trying to keep what he cares about on
the list and not shoved in the corner.
I don't think anyone ever fully "figures it out." We just keep persevering
together. Cheering each other on. Comforting and reminding when we blow it
to apologize and than get back out there and try again.
Keep up the good fight, sister!
Carrie
On Mon, Sep 24, 2018 at 9:24 AM Renee O'Leske <larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Thank you all for sharing! Really appreciate it! I appreciate the
encouragement to rest in God and to learn how to love better. I need it.
:)
Liz, I agree with you. I have to rest in God being my everything. Craig
and I will not be all things to each other. We are different. Right now,
with having a little one, watching shows at night once she is down is our
together time. It's kinda fun & nice for this season. I am thankful for
this time we can enjoy together!
Carrie and Bonnie, thank you for sharing your personal thoughts in this
area of loving your husband well. I know there are times when my "list of
responsibilities" as a mother or wife can easily trump just being his
friend... and the same for Kayla. I can be so focused on all these things
I need to do to care for both of them (maybe because it is endless and I am
not the fastest person on the earth, so I am never really "caught up" with
all my work) that I don't pay attention to them in the moment - to listen
to them or just hang out with them and just love them and meet whatever
needs I can in that moment. Anyway, that's where I am at right now... I
appreciate what was said about it being a continual learning process. :)
Thanks, friends!
-Renee
On Thu, Sep 20, 2018 at 8:51 AM James Brabson <thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Pressed send by mistake. James also uses hunting to help deal with the
stress of being a pastor and, like you said Carrie, I can get frustrated
because things at the house "need" to get done and he is out hunting.
James is not a tv watcher, but we have started going to bed earlier and
watching a tv show. Finding something that he is interested in has been a
struggle though :).
Bonnie
On September 20, 2018, at 9:43 AM, James Brabson <
thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Carrie,
I totally get what you are saying. James is big into outdoor stuff too
and sports. I am not! Even eating deer meet or turkey I don't like. I have
learned to cook the meat so the taste is not as strong. I have to be
careful that I show an interest in his hobbies. Like being excited when he
brings a deer or turkey home even though it grosses me out :).
On September 20, 2018, at 8:40 AM, Carrie Hub <carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
Definitely true, Liz.
I think this hit harder because Brian and I have gotten to the point that
we don't have much that we can afford to do that we like to do together,
and he keeps inviting me to be involved with him in his outdoor stuff. I
used to get really frustrated with him and how much time he put into it,
but I am starting to understand the stress level that he is under at work
and his need to just be really far away from that world and recoop. He just
wants me there in the recouping process which is nice.
On Mon, Sep 17, 2018 at 4:19 PM Elizabeth Lovelace <
dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Chris and I watch shows and movies together. And every four years, the
World Cup. :) At some point in our marriage, I realized that we can't be
everything to each other, which was a healthy realization. He has interests
that I'll never get into, as do I. And that's ok.
On Monday, September 17, 2018, 3:46:30 PM CDT, Carrie Hub <
carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
So good, Renee! Thank you for sharing!
Kind of convicting about the football thing. Brian's loves are hunting
and fishing and working wood. Not stuff I am thrilled about. Looks like I
need to start learning though.
On Fri, Sep 14, 2018 at 3:23 PM James Brabson <
thebrabsonfamily@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Looking forward to listening to it. For me personally I know it is
something I am always working on.
On September 14, 2018, at 2:58 PM, Renee O'Leske <larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
I have to share. Been meditating a little on Titus and realizing my
need to grow in grace so I can love my husband and daughter well... and
God brought this good teaching across my path.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p0xbWkRaHqY&t=56s
