"not disgusting" is a good goal :D
On Sunday, October 14, 2018, 1:59:50 PM CDT, Carrie Hub
<carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
The cleaning thing is a huge motivator. I've try to schedule stuff close
together sometimes just so I clean once for multiple events.
I went to a ladies day that had a break out session on hospitality. Our young
pastor's wife spoke. She was great! The thing that day that encouraged me was,
"Try to shoot for "not disgusting"." I've found that very helpful. Dusty is ok.
Cluttered is ok. That's where we all live and it's more about the people you
are with than killing yourself for an absolutely perfect house.
Jen Wilkin has some good stuff to say about this kind of stuff on her 1,2, 3
John Podcasts. She differentiates between hospitality and entertaining.
On Sat, Oct 13, 2018 at 6:25 PM Pamela Smith <dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
I haven't read it yet, but should. I really want to read "Just Open the Door"
by Jen Schmidt. I follow her on Instagram and really like her relaxed style of
hospitality. You all know I'm not fancy at all, and I have lowered my standards
to an embarrassing low at times. :) We do a lot in the summer outside because
we have a large area to gather out there. As an introvert, I see it as opening
our place where others can gather and connect. When I think of it that way, I
don't feel pressed to "entertain" when we have people over. So, I tend to do
large groups (like 30-40), but not everyone is comfortable with that type of
group, so then we do single families who like smaller groups here and there.
I'm grateful that our home is bigger, so we are able to do that. For me, I'm
trying to do at least 1-2 times/month. I've gotten to know my PTA friends over
the years, so I think we'll be able to invite them over for a meal soon and it
won't feel weird. I am looking forward to having more Gospel-focused
opportunities. I do like having others over the for the push to clean up for
everyone! ;)\Pam
On Saturday, October 13, 2018, 6:02:26 PM CDT, Carrie Hub
<carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
It is on hospitality. They do it to a huge degree.
If any of you pick it up, I'd love your thoughts. Feeling challenged for sure.
Not sure what God would have it look like in our family (my life).
Read last night that the pastor who first shared Christ (and hospitality) with
was discipled by Billy Graham and the man who began the Navigators.
Renee, I totally understand the quandary with hospitality and family. And I
have no answers. :( Thankfully, for the most part, everyone in the family likes
to have people over for meals. Seth really struggles if there are too many
people. I tend to look for singles. We have a small house, and we all really
like/enjoy single people. We can house singles without too much trouble, but
it's hard with more. Brian's talking about buying an older home with lots of
space after he retires to remodel. I can see us trying to house people then a
lot.
Last year, God really worked on me being willing to say "yes" to Brian any time
he wanted to bring someone home (no matter how crazy or short notice). It's
been a good change. I'm learning to let go of things (how clean the house is,
how fancy the food is, etc.). Not perfect yet, but seeing improvement in how
stressed I get. That give up control thing is pretty tough.
On Fri, Oct 12, 2018 at 10:41 PM Renee O'Leske <larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Carrie, based on her talks and the title, I am assuming the book is about
hospitality. Is that correct?
The church we are attending had an interesting sermon on hospitality that I
thought was good & interesting... maybe more on that later. It caused some
discussion for me and Craig and my family afterwards.
You know, I LOVED practicing hospitality as a single person. I had the
privilege of seeing it modeled sooo well by many many people in my life
(including many of you & your families as I have had the privilege of visiting
many of you!), and I loved being able to practice what I saw and experienced
from other believers. I struggle to know how to practice it with a family as
I would then be asking them to sacrifice a lot (it's not just my money, my
house, my things to give away for others to use... nor my space to make
vulnerable to any issues the guests may bring with them - whether sinful,
emotional, physical, etc...) Any advice? :)
One of my very good friends mentioned to me how she sees most of discipleship
happening through hospitality (inviting people into your life). I agreed. She
and her husband are actually in the middle of remodeling their very old home so
that they can practice hospitality more.
Anywho... some things I have been thinking about. I know Dr Butterfield
mentions hospitality in her talks and I liked what she said. But hospitality
is a big sacrifice... to truly welcome people, you have to work hard PLUS give
up a lot of control.
PS. I am truly in awe of how you all have welcomed me into your homes with
children and husbands and ministry, etc... Thank you so much! You blessed my
life so richly. The fellowship and the time with you was so refreshing.
On Fri, Oct 12, 2018 at 8:25 PM Renee O'Leske <larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
I meant yes, I heard of her. Sorry didn't read your question correctly. I
have not yet read her books.
On Fri, Oct 12, 2018, 8:23 PM Renee O'Leske <larsen.renee@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Yes! She is one I found on YouTube. Really like her insights & would like to
read her books.
On Fri, Oct 12, 2018, 10:48 AM Elizabeth Lovelace <dmarc-noreply@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:
I read her first book that you mention but not the second.
On Friday, October 12, 2018, 7:16:24 AM CDT, Carrie Hub
<carriehub060300@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Have any of you read Rosaria Butterfield? I read her Secret Thoughts of an
Unlikely Convert a couple of years ago. Now I am reading The Gospel Comes with
a House Key. I am enjoying it, but it is a lot to process. God is definitely
using it to show me selfishness in my own life. I think she has a good grip on
what it means to "die to self" and to "take up her cross." I guess I am
struggling with what that should look like in my own life.
Just wanted to see if any of you had any thoughts.
