[ SHOWGSD-L ] Re: great article
- From: Pinehillgsds@xxxxxxx
- To: EJDegen@xxxxxxx, showgsd-l@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Tue, 4 May 2010 15:34:55 EDT
Thank you Julie...WONDERFUL...something to practice 4-sure!
Kathy, member GSDCA, DVGSDC
Celebrating generations of Dual Titled TC'd Champions
visit _http://www.pinehillgsds.com/_ (http://www.pinehillgsds.com/)
In a message dated 5/4/2010 1:44:36 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
EJDegen@xxxxxxx writes:
good advice for all exhibitors in all dog sport venues...not just about
dogs but about LIFE
DON'T YOU DARE STEAL MY JOY
by Connie Cleveland
On the occasion of my tenth anniversary, my husband asked me how I wanted
to
celebrate. I asked that we take a very dear friend, my adopted grandmother
and one of the greatest of all the great southern ladies, out to dinner
with
us.
At dinner, my husband, Brian, presented me with a diamond ring. It was
gorgeous and I was speechless, but even as I thanked him, I worried about
the expense and extravagance of such a gift. As if he knew that the next
line belonged to my grandmother, my husband excused himself from the
table.
He was barely out of sight when she reached across the table and grabbed
me
by the shoulder, "I know what you're thinking, I know you think he
couldn't
afford it and it's too extravagant. I don't care if he had to put a
second
mortgage on the house to buy it, don't you steal his joy! It's beautiful.
Accept it as the token of his love that it is and say nothing about how
he
shouldn't have bought it for you." Then she repeated, "Don't you dare
steal
his joy!"
That was the end of the conversation. She sat back in her seat, smiled at
my
returning husband, and we had a lovely dinner. I took her advice and put
my
reservations out of my mind. The ring has never come off my finger, but
most
importantly, I learned a wonderfully important lesson, never to steal
another man's joy.
Are you a joy stealer?
?
?
"You know if my dog hadn't gone down on the sit, I would have won the
class", said, unfeelingly, to the winner.
"I sure didn't think your dog worked that high a score."
"I can't believe you placed, I thought Jane Oneup and her dog would beat
you."
"I thought I had that class won! My dog had a great performance, " said
to
the winner.
"Isn't that judge an idiot? I can't believe the dogs he put up!" said to
the
winner.
"Boy, aren't you glad Mrs Winallthetime wasn't here today or you might
not
have won."
"You passed that Master test because the water blind was so easy."
"That was the stupidest set of water marks I've ever seen. No trial
should
end that easily," said to the winner.
Do you discourage or encourage fellow competitors? Do you tell them their
goals are too lofty and their dreams too big? Are you trying to be
helpful
or trying to keep them from accomplishing something that you never had
the
ability or perseverance to do yourself? It is equally as harmful to steal
joy by destroying the dream.
"No Basset Hounds get UD's," said to the owner of the Bassett in Utility
class.
"I've never seen a Rottweiler that could do fronts and finishes", said to
the owner of the Rottweiler practicing fronts and finishes.
"Do you have any idea how hard it is to get a UD and a Master Hunter? Do
you
know how few people have ever done it?" said to the first time dog owner
setting out to do both.
When FC AFC OTCH Law Abiding Ezra had both his field championships and 65
OTCH points including all the necessary first places, someone had the
guts
to come up to me, his owner, trainer and handler and say, "No dog will
ever
be a field champion and an obedience champion." My jaw drops when I think
about it. Isn't it unfortunate that I remember this attempt at stealing
my
joy much more than I remember all the cards and letters and
congratulations
I received when those last 35 points were earned?
If you are willing to destroy someone's dream, perhaps you don't realize
that it is the JOY of pursuing the dream that keeps the dreamer
motivated,
not just reaching the accomplishment.
My husband and I travel and compete together. I remember an event, early
in
our relationship when I watched his Doberman fail articles. "Darn it, " I
said, as he came out of the ring," she didn't even try to find the right
one!" "Oh", he replied, "but, weren't her heeling and signals wonderful?"
Unknowingly, I had almost stolen his joy. He was celebrating the
improvement
on the exercise that had been giving him trouble, and I was focused on the
failure. Since that experience, Brian and I have learned that the best
response to a questionable performance, "What did you think?" That way, if
the handler is excited about some aspect of the performance, you can share
that excitement. If the handler is disappointed in another aspect, you can
share the disappointment. You are safely removed from being a joy stealer.
I hope you have a lot of dreams and goals for your dogs in (the coming
year). Undoubtedly there will be moments of disappointment as you venture
through the landmines of injury, failures and other setbacks. Remember
that
the joy of the journey is worth the difficulties along the way and don't
let
anyone steal that joy. Guard it well and at he end of the road you can own
it and revel in it with all the other memories of the trip.
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