I'm sure my wife would have killed me, and that would have been my last photograph.
The toilet photo was especially poignant for me - walking dad to the bathroom, and helping sit, and get back up, was one of the few things I could do for him towards the end. He let me feel like I was being useful, and I let him feel like he could still do it on his own. A win-win in a losing battle.
E. On Nov 6, 2009, at 8:31 AM, BOB KISS wrote:
DEAR DON, Well said. We must remember that a photo that creates a feeling ofdiscomfort is not necessarily bad. The precedent of an affectionate photo of someone on the throne was established by Lartigue when he photographed his new bride, Bibi, on "the throne" the first morning of their honeymoon. It is embarrassingly intimate and affectionate...and that is exactly whatmakes it so amazing and memorable. http://arts.guardian.co.uk/pictures/image/0,8543,-10504954434,00.html Of course, this is different in many ways from the photo in the essay but the motivation is love, perhaps of different kinds, in both photos. CHEERS! BOB -----Original Message----- From: pure-silver-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [mailto:pure-silver-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Don Sweet Sent: Friday, November 06, 2009 12:57 AM To: pure-silver@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: [pure-silver] Re: Wonderful Photo Essay Hi David It would be natural to regard some of those photos exploitative ordemeaning. But don't you find that analysis is ruled out by the context - specially the words, and the overwhelming message of affection and respect that the full series conveys. The only unfortunate photo I thought was dad "on the throne", although the image itself was reasonably discreet, and itwas probably just the text that made me wince. The photo essay informed us about the best of his life and hisrelationships. They were still part of the man as he declined; they were not to be found only in some old photos from his youth. What the essay teaches us is that even at our weakest time, our spirit and our dignity remain evident to people who look at us fondly. So long as we have themthere is nothing to fear, and nothing to hide away. Don Sweet ----- Original Message ----- From: "Dennis Purdy" <dlp4777@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> To: <pure-silver@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> Sent: Friday, November 06, 2009 1:30 PM Subject: [pure-silver] Re: Wonderful Photo EssayI was able to open it twice without trouble on a Mac with Safari 4.0.3.= = = = = = ======================================================================I find the photos somewhat offensive. I certainly hope someone doesn't make a study of me at my weakest time when I am dying. If he wanted to do a tribute to his father, why not dig up old photos representing the best of his life and relationships. I don't feel like I learned anything about anything with these photos. Dennis On Nov 5, 2009, at 15:46, Richard Knoppow wrote:----- Original Message ----- From: "Tim Daneliuk" <tundra@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> To: <undisclosed-recipients:> Sent: Thursday, November 05, 2009 7:27 AM Subject: [pure-silver] Wonderful Photo Essayhttp://www.dayswithmyfather.com/I was able to connect after several trys. Got the "service unavailable" message and once a message saying my Flash Player needed to be upgraded, but finally it connected. However, it is very slow. You are probably right that too many people are trying to connect. I will try it again later. -- Richard Knoppow Los Angeles, CA, USA dickburk@xxxxxxxxxxxxx= = =========================================================================================================== To unsubscribe from this list, go to www.freelists.org and logon to your account (the same e-mail address and password you set-up when you subscribed,) and unsubscribe from there.=================================To unsubscribe from this list, go to www.freelists.org and logon to youraccount (the same e-mail address and password you set-up when you subscribed,) and unsubscribe from there.= = = = = = =======================================================================================================To unsubscribe from this list, go to www.freelists.org and logon to youraccount (the same e-mail address and password you set-up when you subscribed,) and unsubscribe from there.__________ Information from ESET NOD32 Antivirus, version of virus signaturedatabase 4578 (20091106) __________ The message was checked by ESET NOD32 Antivirus. http://www.eset.com= = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = ====================================================================== To unsubscribe from this list, go to www.freelists.org and logon to your account (the same e-mail address and password you set-up when you subscribed,) and unsubscribe from there.
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