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Myths About Being A White Ally
MYTH #1: I don’t want to hurt or rewound a person color by something I door say.
First of all, good luck. After all, I think we’ve had 500 years ofdon’t
ask/don’t tell when it comes to issues of diversity and theodds of saying or
doing something that is considered racist or offensive isvery likely. The trick
is to stay in the relationship and not to run away or gosilent when confronted
by people of color. I’d encourage you to becurious and find out how and what
you said/did that was hurtful or racist. Stayin the room and listen to what is
being shared, even if it makes youuncomfortable. Allow yourself to be
emotionally moved while you hearanother’s story and journey. Notice if you are
demanding facts andevidence before you are willing to listen. Validate and own
up to your part inthe disconnection. Take responsibility and be willing to
change. Avoid talkingabout your good intentions or that you’re a liberal
Democrat or someonewho is married to a person of color. Share with your white
friends whatyou’ve learned and also hold them accountable.
MYTH #2: I shouldn’t say anything because whites need to just listen andlearn
from people of color.
I’m not sure where this myth started, but the source may have come fromwhite
shame and guilt. The people of color that I have known, have seldomwanted
whites to say/do nothing when diversity issues arise. What is asked foris that
whites not dominate the conversation or always demand solutions,definitions
and/or supportive data. Rather, the request is for whites to sharetheir
thoughts and fears and be willing to be vulnerable and self-reflective.In other
words, be thoughtful listeners and faithful witnesses to what is beingsaid by
people of color, and not just listen for what they want to hear or onlywhat
makes sense to them as white people. A black student shared in my latestfilm,
If These Halls Could Talk, “I think whites are ‘numb’to their actions and their
impact on people of color because they have lost apart of themselves as human
beings.” The work for whites is toacknowledge their history and their privilege
and to notice how those“advantages” have allowed them unearned access and power
overothers. Before we can talk about inclusion, we must first acknowledge
theexistence and practice of exclusion. And this important conversation
requiresboth whites and people of color engaging with one another and hearing
oneanother’s stories and experiences from a place of curiosity instead of
aplace of fear; understanding instead of denial; self-reflection instead
ofblaming.As I shared in my book, The Art of Mindful Facilitation:“It is my
belief that when we value others for their uniqueness anddifferences, then we
enhance the possibilities for our children and ourselves.To me, that is what
community is all about: when it is practiced and realizedin our daily lives
with those we love and with those we have been taught tofear.” |
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LET’S GET REAL:
Unlearning Racism and Internalized Racism
September 29 -October 1, 2017
Friday 2pm to 9pm; Saturday 8am to 6pm; Sunday 8am to 2pm
Quan Yin Training Center • 2311 8th Street, Berkeley, CA
Facilitated by Lee Mun Wah & Rainbow Markell
There is so much that is unsaid in this country about race issues. In
thisretreat we will explore a variety of ways to have this dialogue on race
andracism that will lead to a more intimate and honest conversation
andrelationship with each other. This retreat is about confronting some of
theissues that keep us all from talking to one another about race/racism. It
isalso about discovering new ways to begin that conversation, how to create
abridge to talk about our differences, exploring what opens us up and
whatcloses us down, and finally, 101 ways to become culturally competent in
ourrelationships and workplaces.
Before we can truly become a multicultural nation, we must have a
relationshipbased on respect and understanding, reflection and curiosity; where
ourdifferences and our similarities are embraced, valued and integrated into
thevery fabric of our workplaces, communities, schools and
governmentalinstitutions. It also means coming to an understanding that
awareness andholidays are just the beginning.
What is required is an on-going dialogue and relationship with each other.
Ihope that you will join us in making this not only a better world for
ourchildren, but for ourselves – not by starting tomorrow, but by beginningthat
conversation today.
Participants will learn:
- 9 Healthy Ways to Communicate
- 101 Ways to Become Culturally Competent
- 21 Statements That Stop A Diversity Conversation
- The Art of Listening & Responding Cross-Culturally
For More Information: 510.204.8840 ext. 103
or www.stirfryseminars.com/BTC
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website at: www.stirfryseminars.com/store. |
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STIRFRY SEMINARS CALENDAR of EVENTS
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| September 19, 2017
Hartford, CT | Keynote- An Unfinished Conversation; Mindfully Resolving
Conflicts forDiversity Issues | Not Open to the Public |
| September 27, 2017
Berkeley, CA | Cultural Competency for Leaders | Not Open to the Public |
| Sept. 29-Oct. 1, 2017
Berkeley, CA | Let's Get Real: Unlearning Racism and Internalized Racism |
Open to the Public
More Info |
| October 4, 2017
Cambridge, MA | An Unfinished Conversation | Not Open to the Public |
| October 6, 2017
Philadelphia, PA | Responding to a Discriminatory Incident at School; Keynote
- What StandsBetween Us
MCRC & ADVIS Diversity, Equity & Inclusion Conference | Open to the Public
click here |
| October 14, 2017
Bellevue, WA | Creating Community in Diverse Group Settings | Open to the
Public
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| October 18 & 19, 2017
Providence, RI | An Unfinished Conversation | Film Showing Open to the Public |
| October 20, 2017
Des Moines, WA | The World is All Around Us: Creating a Culturally-Responsive
and SustainableCollege Community | Not Open to the Public |
| October 24, 2017
Ames, IA | What Stands Between Us | Not Open to the Public |
| October 30, 2017
San Jose, CA | TBD | Not Open to the Public |
| November 1, 2017
Golden Valley, MN | Cross-Cultural Facilitation Techniques for Educators,
Administrators & Staff(Level One) | Not Open to the Public |
| November 2, 2017
North St. Paul, MN | Resolving Cross-Cultural Differences in a Responsive
Learning Environment: PARTONE | Not Open to the Public |
| November 7-8, 2017
San Jose/Woodside/Palo Alto/Atherton, CA | Creating Community and Connection
Across Cultures & Facilitating DifficultConversations Across Cultural
Boundaries: From Theory to Practice | Not Open to the Public |
| November 14 & 15, 2017
IN | TBD | Some Events Open to the Public |
| November 17, 2017
Cambridge, MA | The Practice of Honoring Diversity in Psychotherapy | Not Open
to the Public |
| November 28 & 29, 2017
Baltimore, MD | Cross-Cultural Facilitation Skills for Educators,
Administrators & Staff(Levels One and Two) | Not Open to the Public |
| 2018 |
| January 16, 2018
Eau Claire, WI | TBD | Not Open to the Public |
| January 18, 2018
Golden Valley, MN | Cross-Cultural Facilitation Techniques for Educators,
Administrators & Staff(Level Two) | Not Open to the Public |
| January 27, 2018
Sacramento, CA | What Would Make the Dream Real
MLK Celebration 2018- Sacramento | Open to the Public
More Info |
| February 7 & 8, 2018
Baltimore, MD | Cross-Cultural Facilitation Techniques for Educators,
Administrators & Staff(Levels Three and Four) | Not Open to the Public |
| February 23-25, 2018
Berkeley, CA | Let's Get Real - Unlearning Racism & Internalized Racism | Open
to the Public
More Info coming Soon |
| March 6, 2018
Golden Valley, MN | Cross-Cultural Facilitation Techniques for Educators,
Administrators & Staff(Level Three) | Not Open to the Public |
| March 7, 2018
North St. Paul, MN | Resolving Cross-Cultural Differences in a Responsive
Learning Environment: PARTTWO | Not Open to the Public |
| April 20-22, 2018
Berkeley, CA | Mastering Diversity Training & Facilitation | Open to the
Public
More Info |
| June 6, 2018
Austin, TX | Responding to a Discriminatory Incident at School
Diversity in Organizations, Communities and Nations Conference | Open to the
Public
More Info |
| June 20-24, 2018
Berkeley, CA | Cross-Cultural Facilitation Skills for Diversity Trainers,
Educators &Therapists: Five Day Intensive (all welcome) | Open to the Public
More Info |
| July 25-29, 2018
Berkeley, CA | Cross-Cultural Facilitation Skills for Diversity Trainers,
Educators &Therapists: Five Day Intensive (all welcome) | Open to the Public
More Info |
| September 28-30, 2018
Berkeley, CA | Let's Get Real- Unlearning Racism and Internalized Racism |
Open to the Public
More Info |
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