[m-w] Re: Last correspondence

  • From: Sandy Dohallow <sdohallow@xxxxxxxxxxx>
  • To: Dan Martin <m-w@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • Date: Mon, 29 Jun 2009 02:51:27 +0000

It was not my intention to make you feel ganged up on.  I apologize if that is 
the way you took it.  I merely wanted to point out that some the e-mails you 
send can come across as a little demanding and I don't feel that is the best 
way to approach the situation.  We are all just as confused and reeling from 
this situation as you are.  I wish you could just explain why the need is so 
urgent to get this all done right now.  Maybe that would help everyone to 
understand what the urgency is.  I had no intentions of making things worse, 
but at the time, felt I needed to put my thoughts down for everyone to know 
what my feelings are.  That is, mainly to get through this without the family 
falling apart and no hard feeling when it is done.  I don't think that can 
happen with the way things are going right now.

I came home today, after a very nice weekend of camping, and your e-mail was 
just about the last thing I wanted to see when I got home.  I cringe everytime 
I see one, afraid of what it will contain.  I responded in a fit of emotions 
and that was clearly not the right thing to do.  I don't think that not 
speaking is going to make anything any better.  We just need to communicate in 
a way that is not demanding or threatening and everything will work out in due 
time.  No one is ganging up on you and ignoring the issues.  Details are being 
dealt with, it just takes time.  I'm sure we will all receive the necessary 
back-up that we will need in due time.  Maybe we should just take a step back 
and realize what exactly this is that we are dealing with.  It is hard for 
everyone and that should be all the more reason to communicate in a calm and 
curteous manner.  


Date: Sun, 28 Jun 2009 19:31:23 -0600
Subject: [m-w] Last correspondence
From: kathi.pieper@xxxxxxxxx
To: m-w@xxxxxxxxxxxxx

This is my last communication with all of you.  I will send the form tomorrow.  
I have been attempting to get DETAILS on what is going on to try to make sense 
of all of this.  Now, both Karen and Sandy think I am accusing all of some sort 
of conspiracy.  It is truly pitiful.  Look back through my emails.  I have not 
accused anyone of anything except lack of attention to details or expression of 
what all want to do.  All the details have to be dealt with.  It is not a lie 
that I need the backup paperwork, if you would like to call my security office, 
I can get the number for you tomorrow.

I am not in a rush - I don't have any urgent or fragile financial situation.  
The rest of you don't seem to get it at all.  I am tired of trying to reach any 
kind of consensus.  The only consensus that seems to have been achieved is to 
gang up on me and ignore the issues.  Fine.  You guys have the majority - you 
win.  You figure out what to do and do it.

I have not forgotten any detail of Mom's will.  I have not forgotten there is 
not a headstone.  I have not forgotten that we no longer have parents.  My 
attempts at trying to share in some of the upcoming responsibilities has turned 
into way more headache than I can handle.

Take my name off the distribution - I don't really give a crap anymore.


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