[lit-ideas] Re: truth-seeking
- From: Judith Evans <judithevans001@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- To: lit-ideas@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
- Date: Tue, 10 Aug 2010 16:58:56 +0000 (GMT)
I am not sure, David. I will ponder. I can't see that clear a pattern in my
failed relationships, not in these terms, anyway. (I realise that isn't what
you're asking.) A man did telI me I was something of a Cordelia -- a different
kind of attachment to 'the truth' -- but for various reasons, we were not in a
relationship.
I do think probably women, generally speaking, are more committed to social
cohesion. Less committed to 'the truth', therefore? I don't know, and all my
reading on women, men, and difference, and my relating that to the people I've
known, does not tell me. Carol Gilligan might say we pursue a different truth,
pursue truth, differently?
But I do need to think a bit before saying more.
Judy Evans, Cardiff
--- On Tue, 10/8/10, dsavory@xxxxxxxxx <dsavory@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
From: dsavory@xxxxxxxxx <dsavory@xxxxxxxxx>
Subject: [lit-ideas] truth-seeking
To: lit-ideas@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Date: Tuesday, 10 August, 2010, 17:37
To make this perhaps a bit more concrete: I am not very successful at
maintaining romantic relationships. I think that one of the reasons for this is
that I tend to see what's right as more important than what's most helpful to
maintain the relationship. It's difficult for me to admit I'm wrong, especially
when I don't think I am. But often that's precisely what's required if one
wants to keep the relationship alive; it's sometimes one or the other, not
both. "There's more in life than being right or wrongThere's something in
between called getting along"-- Husker Du I have come to the same conclusion
with many of my male friends: that men are committed to "the truth" and women
to "social cohesion." I don't particularly value truth-seeking by the way, it's
an artificial and abstract pursuit. Anyhoo, this thinking is my secret shame
and I'd be interested to hear what Judy, Veronica and Carol would say. David
Savorytemporarily unlurking 8 stories
over the railyards ofVancouver BC
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