--- Andy Amago <aamago@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote: JMcC> > What do you mean by "mean"? If it's not too mean > to ask? > Blaming the victim, not even trying to see my point > of view, that it was > the only way out of the situation. That's perhaps because it wasn't the only way out. Having said > that, I *do* see the hurt I > inflicted, and I can't tell you how deeply I regret > it. Well "hurt" varies. It isn't like losing a friend or family member of lover -- or like being cheated on by a lover. I was more annoyed than anything else. But there's something in Eric's invoking of what Ursula said: this list is a bit like a community, it seems, anyway, somehow "safer" than the big WWW out there..., more secure than most newsgroups. Judy Evans Cardiff ___________________________________________________________ Yahoo! Exclusive Xmas Game, help Santa with his celebrity party - http://santas-christmas-party.yahoo.net/ ------------------------------------------------------------------ To change your Lit-Ideas settings (subscribe/unsub, vacation on/off, digest on/off), visit www.andreas.com/faq-lit-ideas.html