I know Peter, IT is the reduction of police and the military. That is, if we
all were kinder to each other on all levels, we'd need less military, less
police, and, yes, less social programs as we'd be taking care of each other.
IT reminded me of Marx's idea of the withering away of the state.
BobHachey
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It was all fine until he said that perhaps the best way to reduce the size
of government is to learn how to live better together. Yes, we should
certainly learn how to live better together. But what's this about reducing
the size of government? What exactly does he have in mind? I doubt that it's
fewer police or a smaller military. It most probably is fewer social
programs to help other people. That's the usual reason that people give for
wanting to reduce the size of government.
Miriam
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Subject: [blind-democracy] The Forgiveness Muscle
Hi all,
Below my name, please find one of the more profound pieces of writing I've
come across in quite some time. It was authored by my friend and fellow ACB
member Peter Altschul. Below the text is the link to Peter's blog spot which
he has entitled Breaking Barriers. There you can read this and many other
posts. You can also post comments in reply to his blogs.
I'd say that it would do all of us human beings a lot of good to exercise
our forgiveness muscles.
Bob Hachey
The Forgiveness Muscle
July 2, 2015
Like most of us, I was humbled when a parade of family members of those
that Dylann Roof murdered during the massacre at Emanuel AME Church forgave
him during Mr. Roof's arraignment.
"You took something very precious from me, but I forgive you,"
said Nadine Collier, in between sobs. "It hurts me. You hurt a lot of
people, but may God forgive you."
"If I had experienced something similar, I think I would have been too
emotionally numb to even think about forgiving the murderer," I thought.
"And why is it that African American churchgoers seem to be better at
forgiving than us white churchgoers?"
"Because," I thought, "the average African American has experienced far
more chances to understand the downside of not forgiving others and to
practice the art of forgiveness. They have, on balance, larger forgiveness
muscles than the average white person."
Forgiveness takes courage. It takes grit. It takes perseverance,
patience, and humility. And it requires empathy, the ability to intuit how
those different from us experience similar situations.
As I was pondering the mystery of forgiveness, two news stories grabbed my
attention. The first, written by Sean Illing and published last week in
Salon, described how several leaders within the wealthy community of Rancho
Santa Fe, California have stated that they should be exempt from
restrictions being put in place due to severe drought conditions there.
Brett Barbre was quoted as saying:
"I call it the war on suburbia. California used to be the land of
opportunity and freedom. It's slowly becoming the land of one group telling
everyone else how they think everybody should live their lives." He
concluded: "They'll have to pry it [his water hose] from my cold, dead
hands."
Perhaps, some empathy and perspective is in order?
The other story, written by Lydia Dishman for Fastcompany, reported that
salary raises and promotional opportunities of especially women (but also
men) supervised by women were at least somewhat lessened compared to those
under the leadership of male bosses. More specifically:
* "Relative to men who switched from working for a female manager to a
male manager, women who made such a switch were predicted to earn 1.4% less.
* "Low-performing women who experienced a switch from a male manager to a
high-performing female manager had 30% lower salaries than low-performing
men who experienced the same kind of switch.
* "Male employees reporting to female managers were predicted to earn
approximately 5% less than male employees reporting to male managers."
This is disturbing to us who believe that salting organizations with
talented women will lead to more women being promoted.
Perhaps, organizations are doing a poor job of connecting women to their
culture. Perhaps, workplace cultures are subtly discouraging women from
promoting female peers. But I can't help wondering if the bitterness of
women who have experienced the psychic scars of workplace discrimination are
influencing the way they manage others, and that the only way for this
phenomenon to be addressed is for women (and members of other minority
groups) to begin building up their forgiveness muscles, and for those in
power to take concrete action to reduce the discrimination being
experienced.
As we prepare to celebrate Independence Day, we might remember that the
best way to limit the size of government is to live together more
peacefully, manage conflicts more soulfully, and to forgive each other more
graciously, remembering that each of us is far from perfect. Perhaps, we
could each start by reflecting on the meaning of that most famous hymn sung
by President Obama during his eulogy of Emanuel AME Church's pastor:
"Amazing grace, how sweet the sound
That saved a wretch like me.
I once was lost, but now I'm found;
Was blind, but now I see."
(Or, my preference for that last line):
"Was bound, but now I see."
http://peteraltschul.authorsxpress.com/