[bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: Overly Helpful People
- From: "Lora" <loravara@xxxxxxxxxxx>
- To: <bksvol-discuss@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Tue, 5 Dec 2006 05:12:09 -0700
I don't mind, "Are you all right?" though I like it less than the other
questions. However, it wouldn't really annoy me. And on the street,
people's comments just roll off me. "Mommy, there's a blind woman there,"
or "Oh, why does she have funny eyes?" (I have glaucoma so my eyes look
filmy and strange, and I don't wear dark glasses), just don't bother me. In
truth, if I hear a parent misinforming a child about blindness, I'm likely
to stop and correct them.
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Subject: [bksvol-discuss] Re: OT: Overly Helpful People
I know "all right?" says more about their fear than mine but it is a
legitimate question and personally does not bother me. In fact, unless
somebody interrupts me while I am doing something else and demands I pay
attention to them or actually grabs me I don't care much what they say while
I am walking. I spent twenty years in Manhattan and people's street
comments just roll off me unless they plant themselves in front of me or
directly interfere.
For instance "That lady is blind, look." is just a fact of life on a busy
street with a lot of street people and homeless.
E.
At 02:18 AM 12/5/2006, you wrote:
>E,
>
>"Do you need help," or "Can I help you," is o.k., in my mind, but I
>wouldn't like "Are you all right"
>unless it's evident that something is wrong with me, like I'm gasping
>for breath, or have fallen down or something.
>JMO
>
>Cindy
>
>--- Elizabeth and Burton <thoth93@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
>wrote:
>
> > Reality is grabbing someone, particularly a woman without asking
> > first is a stressful and possibly dangerous experience for the
> > person being grabbed. I understand the need to help. I will stress
> > in the book what we all know and have been trying to stress and will
> > use humor to do it. The human being is equipped with a mouth and
> > the ability to use it. Please let's learn the following phrases.
> > Repeat after me
> > children:
> > "May I pet your dog."
> > "Do you need help."
> > alternatives to "Do you need help" include "Are you all right?"
> >
> > The implicit thing often thought is "I am worried about you. Do you
> > need help?" (can I stop worrying) and the other question is "I have
> > nobody to help and here is a person I can help." I do not like this
> > attitude much since I dislike being an object attracting folks who
> > feel so non-needed and attracting them for their needs not my help
> > By the way, you can tell that kind. Those are the ones who keep
> > insisting and hang on after you have said you do not need help.
> >
> > On a more ominous note, I think there are men who physically grab
> > blind women for the same reason they would like to grab or touch a
> > woman or any kind. You can tell this kind because he is the one who
> > tries to cop a feel of my tit while I am hholding his arm to cross a
> > street.
> >
> > Bottom line, I thin, is that anyone needs to be at least a bit
> > concerned about somebody grabbing them particularly in situations
> > where he might be trying to pick your pocket or such. The fact is
> > many of that kind are put off some by dogs.
> >
> > I also think women who are blind get physically contacted more than
> > do blind men. Somebody from AFB wrote a NY Times article about it a
> > few years ago. I will do my best to get ahold of it. I want AFB in
> > on the book project in some way, by the way.
> >
> > This thing really might take off.
> >
> > E.
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