[audio-pals] Re: Mood

  • From: "Josh" <lawdog911@xxxxxxxxxxx>
  • To: <audio-pals@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
  • Date: Tue, 14 Oct 2014 22:45:25 -0400

Hi Heaver the Cleaver and Bethie the Pepperoni. Dictate what we do with Little 
Man. We have constantly told them what is topics that are to be avoided, not 
necessarily by our rules, but by the court rules. We have had our authority 
undermined on numerous occasions, we have been belittled, berated, insulted, 
made to feel like we have to explain ever move we make. The fil is asailor 
mouth no matter who is around. The mil asked if he could spend the night on 
Saturday. We told them he had lost that privilege due to behavior problems at 
school. This is not only for them, but my parents, and his great grandmother 
which is there and steps in whenever Amanda is not able to take him to 
appointments. We have not put him on total shut down and we plan to take him to 
the circus on Saturday. However, spending the night is a privilege and a 
privilege that only comes when you know that you can be trusted to act right 
and us having to schedule a special parent/teacher conference is not showing 
that. After Amanda sent that message that he would have to earn the privilege 
back the mil said you will speak to your father tomorrow. Amanda said that 
sounded confrontational through text. We never said that they cannot see him or 
that we could not bring him over to visit. So, the mil responds with oh so you 
can take him to the circus, but not let him spend the night? Trying to have 
dinner with Little Man and me her father starts blowing up her cell, he then 
calls my cell and on both phones leaves messages berating and belittling. We 
were told how we are not making the right decisions expletives and then the f 
bomb with a you at the end of the messages on both of our phones. Come to find 
out I am a chicken s*** *LOL*. Well, after all this and we get Little Man in 
bed Amanda sent a text laying it all out on the table and letting them know 
htat they may want to do some self examining before they think they are going 
to disrupt our family like that. They threw stuff up in Amanda’s face that 
wasn’t even relevant, things that parents are suppose to do for their kids. 
Amanda was polite, but factural in her response and her response seems like it 
would be pretty damaging when it comes to visits with Little Man since it talks 
about excessive alcohol and how he says he wouldn’t hurt anyone, but she wasn’t 
exactly feeling all giddy inside.on their end. We were told today, not in 
regards to this, but in regards to other issues that our word when talking 
about him is the law. We were told this by our social worker since the case is 
now closed. Amanda went on to tell them in the e-mail that we do not have to 
justify ourselves or our decisions to anyone nor will we unless required. We 
never received a response, probably because Amanda brought up an issue that 
happened a few years ago that we were just biting our tongues on with the mil 
drawing the line in the sand of who is family and who is not family. The mil is 
actually a step parent. Her father passed a way a few years ago and we were 
there to pay our respects, we started t go in and we were told by the step 
parent that we could not go in because the family was in their grieving, pretty 
clear line if you ask me. We aren’t family when it is convenient and not family 
when convenient. We either are family or we are not family. So, that was 
brought out in the text message and after the extremely long text message was 
sent to the mil’s phone, we also sent it to the fil’s e-mail so that way the 
mil couldn’t just erase it and hide it from her husband. If they re going to 
throw punches then we will throw, but it isn’t going to be pretty. They haven’t 
responded anymore. I imagine that it is still going on, just behind the scenes 
at this point. That is ok though because we have not slandered or defamed in 
anyway only told the facts. It is a mess, they didn’t step up and try for 
custody because they say it would be the end of their marriage. They have other 
grandkids, but only this one are they trying so hard to get to spend the night 
and that in itself concerns me as to what they are planning because they have 
never respected the fact that the courts have clearly said that the mother is 
not a topic of conversation, until it is handled in therapy. I have since 
blocked my fil from calling my phones because according to him “I am not in my 
right mind”. Self examining, but and maybe we can get to the bottom of who is 
not in their right mind. Oh well, family is family and if it is meant to be 
worked out then it will work out in time, otherwise they will miss out.         


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mailto:audio-pals-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Heather H
Sent: Monday, October 13, 2014 11:22 PM
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Subject: [audio-pals] Re: Mood


Dictate what?    Hi from Bethie and I.  We're sitting together and she is 
playing on my computer and I'm playing games on my phone...ah, family time!!! 

Sent from my iPhone

On Oct 13, 2014, at 10:18 PM, "Josh" <lawdog911@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

Grrrr! Angry! In-laws trying to dictate.

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