Rox and Karyn, Oh, I so totally hear you! Been there, done that. Always have, always will. /grin/ The trick, I have decided, is to not let the dog know you're worrying = about all that. Anybody got a way to fool a dog about what you're feeling? /smile/ Mine is dead asleep, poor dear. I will be taking her out to play and = run off her stress soon with her favorite kid. /smile/ Tami Smith-Kinney -----Original Message----- From: vi-clicker-trainers-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [mailto:vi-clicker-trainers-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of The = Pawpower Pack Sent: Sunday, July 06, 2008 2:45 PM To: vi-clicker-trainers@xxxxxxxxxxxxx Subject: (VICT) Re: Trainer's Confidence [was Re: zair] Karyn, This is very true. I am always feeling this need to push push push and = on=20 the other hand is this fear that I'll break her because honestly she is=20 probably the most perfect dog for me and I have not come across one=20 worrisome thing or fear or flaw in her character that makes me think = that=20 she will wash out which is not a guarantee that she won't but I'm so = afraid=20 I'll mess it up some how. From Wednesday until yesterday we just took a = break like you said; mostly because she had a big day Tuesday and = because I=20 was exhausted and was afraid to take her out around the 4th of July for = fear somebody would scare her with fireworks or something. Then when we took a break I worried that she'd forget everything she = learned and that I was messing her up by not doing enough. ugh; it is so much harder when you're doing it for you and your = perspective=20 is off on vacation. She went out with me this morning and was perfect and I see that all of = my=20 stupid worrying over all of this crap is not actually helping anything. = ugh. Rox and the "Kitchen Bitches" Bristol (retired), Mill'E SD, and Laveau SDIT "It is better to live here in sackcloth and ashes, than to own the whole = state of Ohio." - Lafcadio Hearn on New Orleans, 1879 pawpower@xxxxxxx windows messenger: Brisomania@xxxxxxxxxxx AIM: brissysgirl=20