[tri-wings] Re: thank you to all

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Dear Ruth,=0D
Our Sofie Marie was born on January 16th and passed away February 13th, h=
er
live was 28 days and yet it felt like 28 years at the time (im sure you
could relate ) and now it felt like 28 seconds.(years on I still feel the
anguish) but its different the rawness has gone I can read the baby notic=
es
once again and I can laugh and not feel like I am betraying sofie. I have
also joined alliances with a group called THE TEDDY LOVE CLUB and what th=
eir
mission is , is to give all parents of babies that are stillborn,neoonate=
l
or infant loss a teddy when they lose their loved one, 9years ago I thoug=
ht
this was little compensation now I know the joy of holding sofies teddy a=
nd
smelling her.  Its a sad reality that we have more parents in need than w=
e
do teddies and in most hospitals the baskets are getting filled constantl=
y
to give to these families a godsend is that the hospitals allow this
recognition and it helps a little.=0D
I have had 9years to allow me to know that sofie was born to me as a gift
and I truly treasure that  , I don't feel that utter pain and thoughts th=
at
I was punished for some reason by losing her I now know god blessed me. I
went on to have another son 12 months after sofie passed I fell pregnant =
and
after a month in intensive care after giving birth and suffering horrendo=
us
complications I believed my life was complete, but the pain was very very
raw still even as I held dion and having a near death expereince   as I
delievered him and fought for my life for 1month after  I still felt the
anguish. It was through medical advice that my husband had an immediate
vasectomy as my life was too close to being lost with dions birth. The
reason I guess for me telling you all this is that I lost my faith as I l=
ost
Sofie and then when I was ill and slowly regained my health I believed I =
was
her for a bigger plan and that Sofies passing was not something I did in =
my
lifetime but a gift from her to me to show me how to love  unconditionall=
y.=0D
God also had a bigger plan for me and on the eve of Sofies 6th anniversar=
y I
gave birth to a healthy daughter Georgia Eleni 8lb1oz after a very
succesfully 5year vasectomy. She has her sisters birthmarks. So you see R=
uth
 I have learnt that no matter what you try in life there is a bigger plan
out there that neither you or I can control=0D
Sorry for the rambling=0D
I pray that you find comfort in these early and that you be gentle on
yourself and let the course of your grief take its time . There is no tim=
e
schedule nor is there any remedy only you can feel your pain and only you
can walk that mile but know something you are not alone and there are man=
y
of us that feel what you write and say and that's not only because we are=
 a
few steps ahead that's because having these precious angels has allowed u=
s
to be what we are today=0D
Lisa=0D
Eternal mum to Alex (11years and hitting the moody blues) Sofie Marie 28
days forever Dion 8 and  Georgia 3years going on 35......lol =0D
From: Ruth Hadley=0D
Date: 07/29/06 23:25:37=0D
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx=0D
Subject: [tri-wings] Re: thank you to all=0D
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Dear Lisa,=0D
 =0D
  Thank you so much for your reply.  It filled me with such emotion to re=
ad
it.  I'm so sorry that your Sofie died.  I will always remember and take
comfort in that Sofie and Jill are both February saints in heaven.=0D
 =0D
  Nine years.  I'm so sorry.  I know that is my future.  A lifetime witho=
ut
Jill.  Sometimes I wonder if I can keep my sanity.  A guess that's what
people mean when they say one day at a time, because thinking about the r=
est
of my life without my baby girl is too painful to comtemplate.=0D
 =0D
  What are Sofie's dates?=0D
 =0D
  We were very fortunate to be able to take Jill home after she died.  I
think I would have lost my mind completely if I was forced to leave her a=
t
the hospital.  As it was, leaving Jill at the funeral home that evening w=
as
very difficult.  That's a whole other story.  We ended up having her brou=
ght
to a different one the next day where the people there (my cousins) were
much more compassionate towards me and my family.=0D
 =0D
  Ruth (Jill's Mom 2/9/06 - 2/27/06)=0D
  Lisa Minopoulos <lisamin@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:=0D
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Dear Ruth,=3D0D=0D
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How far society has come, when our daughter sofie passed 9 years ago to t=
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ri=0D
13 we thought we had made milestone by just being able to be with her th=3D=
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e=0D
whole time from her birth to her passing ( 28 days) and to stay with her=0D
for hours after she passed and yet we felt so cheated to leave that=0D
hospital without her . I am so glad you got this opportunity and I am so=0D
thankful that you had these special moments after her passing. February w=
=3D=0D
as=0D
her passing and it holds as special month in our hearts and now I know sh=
=3D=0D
e=0D
has yet another angel to play with in heaven and I am so glad that time h=
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as=0D
changed peoples percepetions and you had this opportunity. My doctor was=0D
also quite caring for us and allowed us ( like he could have stopped me) =
=3D=0D
to=0D
spend the last night with Sofie in our bed in the hospice as she took her=
=0D
last breaths sometimes there are gods messengers working everywhere in=0D
strange way.=3D0D=0D
I wish you peace and comfort on your journey .=3D0D=0D
Big hugs=3D0D=0D
Lisa =3D0D=0D
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From: Ruth Hadley=3D0D=0D
Date: 07/29/06 09:11:56=3D0D=0D
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx=3D0D=0D
Subject: [tri-wings] Re: thank you to all=3D0D=0D
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Hi Erin,=3D0D=0D
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Your little son Tyler was born the day I buried my daughter Jill. She =3D=
=0D
was=0D
18 days old. The day Jill died, February 27, she was at home and had=0D
stopped breathing. My husband brought her back with CPR and I called 911=3D=
=0D
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The ambulance came and brought her to the hospital. Hospice stayed with =3D=
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us=0D
the whole time in the hospital until Jill took her last breath in my arms=
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During that day at the hospital I had mentioned that I had wanted to take=
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Jill home and give her a bath and bring her to the funeral home myself, a=
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nd=0D
the hospice people took care of all that for us. I don't know what they=0D
said, but we walked out of that hospital with our baby girl and brought h=
=3D=0D
er=0D
home.=3D0D=0D
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Ruth (Jill's Mom 2/9/06 - 2/27/06)=3D0D=0D
ekmaurer3@xxxxxxxxxxx wrote:=3D0D=0D
Nancy,=3D0D=0D
Your story is beautiful. Analee sounds like such a special girl. I am so=0D
sorry for your loss.=3D0D=0D
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Can i ask how you were allowed to have Analee at home after she died. Whe=
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n=0D
my son Tyler died in the hospital i wanted to take him but they said I=0D
couldnt.=3D0D=0D
He never got to be at home and I just wanted him to be there once.=3D0D=0D
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