[tri-wings] off topic/vent/funeral

I went to the visitation for my stepfather today.....it was hard, not in the
usual way the man was .....I guess the nicest thing I can say is that he was
not nice to my sister and I ( and believe me that is being very nice) anyway
the thing that got me and is causing me to vent is that my mom obviously
perpetuated the big happy family with her friends!   I mean her friends were
coming up to me and hugging me and giving me there condolences!  When they
asked how I was and I said I was good they looked at me as if I had 2
heads!?    Ok so I went, for the duration  ( for my mom) I was polite I did
not say what a &^%$#  the man was  but al these people really got me. .....I
did talk to a couple of people who had the real info, it helped........that
family is so messed up. I joke that it is a Jerry Springer funeral but its
not far off, we have the children, the ex's, the new flames, the ignored
grandchildren, the lothario son ( who actually brought his new girl friend
for the afternoon session and his old girl friend for the evening session )
and me and my sister, and my poor mother who chose this man over her
children.  She does not want to sleep in the house he died in just yet, she
stayed at my sisters for 2 nights, here for one night but its just the couch
or the air bed but with her arthritis that's out as it would be to hard for
her to get off the floor so tonight she is staying at her husband's
daughters house as there is a bed there.  DH is thinking we should buy a bed
for the computer room and I am not really sure about that, Mark suggested we
get one of those portable beds, the air beds with the frames, might be the
best idea as then my sister and I can share mom staying with us. Tomorrow is
the funeral and Monday is the burial as he is being cremated. Hopefully I
can get through this with dignity!  Oh and to be petty my mom's sister in
law ( her late brothers wife, or my aunt)  sent an arrangement 4 times
bigger for Ben then she did for Rebecca!  Now that really hurt as they never
liked Ben much ( espec since it was from my aunt and 3 married couples and
one cousin unmarried) at Rebecca' funeral I put it down to I know they are
cheap, now it makes me think the devalued her because she was disabled 
 

Susan Mom to Rebecca T18 M 6/6/91-5/2/06 and Mark ADD/LD age 16

 



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