[tri-wings] Re: just when I was feeling better...Teri

Thanks for the wise words, Teri!

Hugs,

Brenda - wife to Rich, mommy to Matthew Alexander(2), Grace Alexandra
^i^ 8/31/03 T-13 and new baby on the way (EDD 8/25/04)


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[mailto:tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Teri Pratt-Yates &
Family
Sent: Sunday, February 08, 2004 9:28 PM
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Subject: [tri-wings] Re: just when I was feeling better...

(( Brenda ))

Not much can be said that hasn't already, but I too believe your
co-worker
just wasn't thinking about all the ramifications of her words....the
gesture
itself should be allowed to speak for itself....

If nothing else, it teaches us all to be even that much more careful
with
our words and thoughts to a grieving family...
I know I worried when I got pregnant with Christopher 6 months after
Jordan
gained his wings, that people thought I was trying to replace him...
what
mattered is what I knew in my heart.

Here's a bit of truth now, that it's been 18 years...(almost 19!)  I
don't
know what my life would have been like without Christopher...he is my
ray of
sunshine!!  And, to tell you the reallllll honest truth, if Jordan had
been
born healthy, who knows if I would've even gone on to have another
child...;
NOW let me say this - Jordan is my ray of sunshine, too - but in a much,
much different way.  My other two children are also rays of
sunshine...in
ways just as special and loving.  But, heaven knows (and probably will
only
ever be the only one!!) I was given Jordan - his life, and his legacy -
for
13 days, for a reason.  I had lessons to learn, eyes to open, hearts to
open - wound - and heal.  Then, in my own mind (again a PERSONAL
observation
here), Jordan's heavenly father called him back home - and then blessed
me
with Chris -  1 year 1 month and 6 days later.  No one could ever say
Chris
was given to me to replace Jordan.  But I truly believe that what
happened -
all of it - was meant to happen.

Don't know what provoked that thought ... and sorry for the rambling.
Just
guess I felt the need to share from a Mom who has had 2 children (who
are
almost grown) since Jordan lived and then gained his wings.  Life is so
precious - yet so mysterious...


((( Warm hugs ))) to you...
Blessed be!

Teri  - Dallas, Garland, Texas, US of Great A
Mom to John (21), Jordan Nicholas (04/01-04/13/85 ^i^ T13), Chris (17),
Tori
(9), and Artemus the Black Tom Cat >'.'<
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