[tri-wings] Re: just when I was feeling better...- LouAnn

Thanks, LouAnn.  I think what is getting me most is that I really don't
want to think about Grace's due date.  I'd rather forget it - even
though I know that there's not a chance that I will ever be able to do
that.  I think her due date just reminds me of the "what should have
been's".  Does that make sense?  Yes, she should have been here.  Yes, I
should be on maternity leave right now, enjoying every minute with her.
Yes, I should be teaching Matthew that he has to share his Mommy with
his little sister.  But, the reality of it all is...she had full T-13
and did not make it to this date.  I would much rather remember the date
that she was born and gained her wings -the day that she carved out a
little piece of our hearts and took it with her to Heaven. =20

I guess I shouldn't expect everyone to know how I feel.  And, I know I
should be thankful that I have a friend that would remember things in my
life that are important.  And, believe me, I do.  On Monday I will thank
her for the card.  And some day in the future, when I am feeling a
little stronger, I will explain my feelings about Grace's due date. =20

Thanks all for listening to the ramblings of a crazy Mom!

Hugs,

Brenda - wife to Rich, mommy to Matthew Alexander(2), Grace Alexandra
^i^ 8/31/03 T-13 and new baby on the way (EDD 8/25/04)


-----Original Message-----
From: tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of LouAnn Bieck
Sent: Saturday, February 07, 2004 7:56 PM
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [tri-wings] Re: just when I was feeling better...

Dear Brenda,
 I'm sorry for the pain your friend caused you. I think back before we
went
thru the past 2 yrs and I too was very ignorant. I had a friend who lost
a
baby and didn't have the insight and compassion I've learned. I think
now I
take every chance to explain just how precious our little Kaden is and
how
not given earthly time out of mommy's tummy we interacted and were given
the
gift of knowing him none the less.Many times pain and discomfort can
open
the door to helping others understand. As many parents say, they pray
people
won't have to go thru the loss that we have and be forced to travel the
long
road of healing. Our love and prayers to your family in the days ahead.
LouAnn
Grammy to Maelin Ann,3 Kaden James^I^9/04/02 our heavenly Angel full
t-13
and Renna Grace,born 4th of July 03.Our gift from God and Kaden.

----- Original Message -----
From: "Thomas, Brenda L." <blthomas@xxxxxxxx>
To: <tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Friday, February 06, 2004 11:20 PM
Subject: [tri-wings] just when I was feeling better...


> Just when I felt like things were going pretty good in general, I get
a
> big kick in the stomach today.  Yesterday would have been Grace's due
> date.  I decided to work on my project from home, r>


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