[tri-wings] Re: interesting article


Maryanne,

> I would love to hear comments by others on this article or the book if you
> have read it. You can read a sample chapter at the website.

I personally have not read her book.  Like she said in the article, I too
have believed and said many, many times...grief does not have a time table.
I feel grief in one way or another will be with us until we die.  We are use
to things that have a time table.  We go to school X amount of time, and
even within that we have time tables.  X amount of time until spring break,
summer, until we move onto the next grade, etc.  Our broken bone will be
healed in X amount of time.  Because of the fact that our lives have so many
things in it that have a beginning and end, it really tends to make it hard
for people to understand why we would not have an ending to our pain and
grief.  We have to recondition or re-educate society that some things do not
have a time.
I found a quote by Phillip Brooks that I like he says, " We do not want to
lose our grief, because our grief is bound up with our love, and we could
not cease to mourn without being robbed of our affections."

I think in her article the way I read it, she does not feel grief is worked
through.  I feel it is, but is continually worked through.  The work never
stops so to speak.  You work through it ever time you feel angry, sad,
bitter, etc.  Working through those feelings ever time they come up, I feel
is cleansing and helps to heal us a little bit each time.  Each time we do
not meet those feelings face on and work through them, I feel only adds more
pain and problems to our lives.

I will end here because if not I will turn this into a novel.  People that
know me can tell you, if I get going on something, I keep going.  lol

Take care, Jan(Proud mother of Jordan), Jonathan-8 years old, Jasmine-5
years old, and Jillian born 11-29-00(Proud siblings of Jordan), and
John(Proud daddy of Jordan)

"A person is a person, no matter how small."
Dr. Seuss

Our love is not measured by the time we had, but by what will be felt in our
hearts forever.
http://pages.prodigy.net/janjohn83/jordan.htm
Jordan's Page - Born/Died July 5, 1999



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