[tri-wings] inconsiderate relatives

Darcy,
I have to agree with you when you say there is no comparing the death of a 
child and the death of an older person. My mom died just 8 weeks before 
Julie and sure I miss her, but the pain I felt when we lost Julie was so 
much deeper and profound, you just cant compare the two. Its not natural to 
bury your child. It drives me nuts when people compare the loss of a friend 
or pet to the loss of my own child. To me, it isnt even the same as losing a 
parent. My FIL past away this past Dec. and one day shortly after his 
funeral, my sil had the nerve,or stupidity, to tell me I wouldnt believe how 
hard it is to lose someone and how uncomfortable people are around her now 
because they dont know what to say.Shes lucky to still be breathing! I just 
wanted to whomp her upside her head!! I think she felt that because Jul was 
just a baby, who wasnt even 'normal', that she didnt contribute to her 
family. If she had only come around to visit, maybe she wold have seen that 
Jul was as much a part of the family as her big sister. Well I think I 
rambled long enough. Sorry!!

Linda - mom to Megan(5), ^i^ Julie(t13), Alyssa(almost 9 months)

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