[tri-wings] Re: help please

On 10/29/06, StephnKa9@xxxxxxx <StephnKa9@xxxxxxx> wrote:
> My daughter has a friend that had a 3 yr old baby boy that passed away
> friday. I just found out. I want to do something for her. My heart is 
> breaking for
> her, she is only 24 not married. He had a disease that is rare and had to have
> a nurse stay with him while she worked. I need ideas on what I can do that
> will help her through this hard time. I will send flowers but how much does 
> that
> mean? And how can I let her know I too have lost a child and know her pain?


Meals are always very welcome.  Maybe after a couple weeks when the
numbness wears down.  I know the last thing I wanted to do was plan
and prepare a meal.  Another suggestion might be to help write thank
you's or at least address them for her.  This was my most dreaded
task.  I was only able to get through a couple of them at a sitting.
I felt like I was supposed to be writing thank you's for baby gifts,
not memorials.  It really stunk, but I also felt like I needed to put
a personal note to each one because it all meant so much to me - but
if someone would have offered to address them for me, I'd of jumped at
it.

I did have a couple people let me know that they knew my pain through
the loss of their own child.  I thought it was very touching that they
would share that with me.  Both were written in a sympathy card with
the invite to contact them if I needed to.  It was a nice way of
letting me know without invading my space if I needed it.

These are just the things that come to mind for me, I'm sure others
will have suggestions too.



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