[tri-wings] Re: grieveing

I am with you Bess for the most part.  I talk about Christian all the
time.  I actually said something to my mom a while back because she said
she had one grandbaby and I corrected her. I said no mom you have two
but one is in heaven.  Is that wrong? I like to acknowledge the fact
that he was with us for 2 days and that he always will be.=20
People ask me how many kids I have and I say two boys Anthony almost 5
and Christian who is now an angel.  I am so shocked at how many people
don't know what T13 is.  Then I remember that I didn't either until
Christian was diagnosed.=20

As far as some things to do to preserve memories, I made him a scrap
book just like Anthony and in that book is his SS#, with a few poems
that really touched me, and some little things that I shared with him.
Ex. When we were in Germany he would wake up every morning when I was
driving to work and I would rub my belly and talk to him. I thought it
was a good way ok keeping the memories alive.=20
I hope you guys all find a nice way to remember your child. =20

Memorial Day was a bad day for me I didn't get to go see Christian like
I wanted. So his angel is still sitting at home, but the more I think
about it the more thankful I didn't because his grave is right next to
the front gate and I would have been interrupted a lot so I am going to
try and do it this weekend. Part of me wants Mike (hubby) and Anthony to
come but I decided that I would much rather go alone. That way I can
talk to him and cry. I think I would be more open to express myself.=20
Ok now look who is rambling.. LOL
Ladies and gentlemen I hope you have a nice day.=20

Marianne
Mom to Christian (T13) 9-29-05/10-1-05, Anthony (4) Jun 4th 2001
" Those who can endure most are rewarded most" unknown

-----Original Message-----
From: tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
[mailto:tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx] On Behalf Of Deanna Warpehoski
Sent: Tuesday, May 30, 2006 7:24 AM
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [tri-wings] Re: grieveing



--- Midwifehelp@xxxxxxx wrote:

> =20
> One thing that has helped me is helping others and
> talking about my  daughter=20
> and our experience.=20
> =20


This is so true.  It helps to keep their memory alive.
 One other thing I thought of is keeping a journal, or
writing everything you can remember about your
precious little one and I mean EVERYTHING.=20
Unfortunately, as much as the hour and 36 minutes that
we had with Jessica is etched in my mind, time has a
nasty effect on clarifying some of those memories.  As
difficult as it may be now to write all this down, you
will appreciate it later - it helps to get those
healthy tears.  Even write down things about your
pregnancy that you remember.  It really is a good
thing to have later.

lotsofluv
Deanna ~~~~
Mom to Nicole 17, Jake 14, Jessica (our beautiful T18 angel) 5/04/02 and
Rylee 2 1/2 !!!
Wife to Mike
Meet Jessica @ http://home.mchsi.com/~warpehoski


I live in my own little world.  But it's ok - They know me here.

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