[tri-wings] Re: Xmas-Darcy

Darcy,

I know what that first Christmas is like without your baby.  Alan and I went
through it last year.  Zachary's funeral was the day before Thanksgiving,
which used to be my favorite holiday and the one that I have at my house,
and then we had Christmas to contend with.  To top it off, Alan's son came
for the Christmas holiday, which actually turned out to be the best thing
because he is just such a good kid and I was able to focus my attention on
him rather than on my grief.  I was fine Christmas Eve, Christmas morning
and well into the day, but by the evening I had had it.  I had very mixed
emotions about the year coming to a close.  I wanted to hold onto it because
it was the year Zachary was born and I wasn't ready to let it go.  Strange,
huh?  Some things we did to help us through the holidays--we brought
Thanksgiving dinner to the NICU and to the 5th floor nurses station where I
stayed.  It gave us something to look forward to and helped us remind
everyone of Zachary.  We also bought some throw away cameras and little
preemie hats and booties for Christmas and gave them to the NICU--again, all
given in memory of Zachary.  We plan on doing this again this year and I'm
really looking forward to it.  A couple that we know just donated two
children's rocking chairs to to the library here in town with Zachary's name
on it and another friend of the family made a donation to the NICU in memory
of Zachary just recently.  If there are giving trees or donations to be
made, I always take part in them but always in memory of Zachary.  The
holidays are never easy nor the days approaching them.  However, if you live
those days like you're doing now--one day at a time--you will get through
them.  I'll be thinking of you.

Love,
Joyce, mom to Zachary 11/15/00-11/20/00, wife to Alan

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