[tri-wings] Re: What if you can't move on?

>>>>>>>Hi all,

I wanted to know of there is anyone out there who's life just stopped =
after
their loss. I just can't think of anything but getting through one day =
at a
time<<<<<<<



((((((((Sophie)))))))))


As others have said counciling would be a good idea  ( not that I have done
that yet, just cant bring myself to do it)  I am  still pretty much doing
the one day at a time thing as well.  I did go back to work after about 3
weeks which is probably way to early but in my fog I "forgot" that I could
have gone on unemployment insurance for the stress.  I only work partime and
in some ways it did help because it got me interacting with others.  I am an
RN on the post partum floor and I did wonder if I would have to change
floors but the babies don't bother me, I guess its because I delt with the
whole "that's what I was soposed to get"  when Rebecca was born in 91, it
will still hit me but not with the same intensity.  I cant answer to the
never having another child as I do have a son Mark, that said I always
wanted a daughter and that does make me sad ( but I am not having anymore
children)  Glenn and I are still together and we do grieve differently but
that's ok, ( we have been together 27 yrs so we are well attunded to each
other and I think this helps, when I cry he just gets me the tissues but
dose not say anything or try and comfort me as that is just his way and I
accept that, plus I know he feels the grief deeply  so its probably all he
can do so he dose not break down as well)  I did take up a new hobby and
that is scrapbooking and it has been very therapeutic and at times
exhausting.

Susan mom to Rebecca t18m 06/06/91 - 05/02/06 and Mark age 15 ADD/LD


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