[tri-wings] Re: UGH - will this ever get better?

(((((Brenda)))))
I don't know what I can add that the others haven't already said.  Reaching
those milestones is so difficult.  I applaud you for returning to work and
doing so well in the other areas.  I never did adjust after going back.  I
gave up my position and took a lower one (less stress) and it was a mistake.
Too much had changed by the time I went back and I didn't fit in, so I ended
up quitting.  It was better than being miserable.  Don't worry about
shedding tears, if they don't understand, then too bad.  If a workplace
doesn't not allow some personal emotion, then this a cold crule world and I
don't believe that.  Take care and remember, with each day it gets a little
bit better.

lotsoflove
Deanna~~~.~
wife to Mike, mom to Nicole 15, Jake 11, and  Jessica 5/4/02 (our precious
angel -t18) and our special BIG little bundle NOW arriving 10/20/03!!!
Coal Valley, IL USA
Meet Jessica @ http://home.att.net/~warpehoski


I live in my own little world. But it's OK. They know me here.


----- Original Message -----
From: "Thomas, Brenda L." <blthomas@xxxxxxxx>
To: <tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Wednesday, October 15, 2003 2:47 PM
Subject: [tri-wings] UGH - will this ever get better?


> I just left a meeting at work just as I was about to start sobbing.  Part
of
> my job is to work on the OB-GYN electronic medical record - which I didn't
> think I would be able to work on again after I delivered Grace, but it
truly
> has been fine.  The other part of my job is to create this database where
> people in our hospital keep track of any disclosures of protected health
> information (because of a recent Federal law that started in April).  This
> part has also been fine until today.  We had to meet with the birth
> certificate folks to discuss whether they were going to be entering a
record
> under mom and the baby, baby only or mom only.  Well, during this
> conversation they started talking about when a birth certificate would not
> been done - and how they don't do one if the baby is still born and they
> don't do one if the baby was only a certain amount of weeks along, etc.
For
> those of you that don't know...I wasn't able to do a birth or death
> certificate for Grace (which means I couldn't legally name her) because I
> was only 17 weeks along and they don't do either certificate in Texas
until
> the baby is 20+ weeks.  Which of course made me feel like no one
considered
> her a real baby.
>
>
> Oh my goodness...I started to feel this heat in my body that started at my
> toes and started rising through my body.  I finally just got up, grabbed
my
> pager and left the room.  Then sobbed all the way back to my desk.  Then
of
> course, I felt like I was totally unprofessional and probably made
everyone
> in the meeting feel terrible or uncomfortable for the discussion (most
> everyone in there knew about my recent loss).
>
>
>
> On a good note...had this have been a week and a half ago, when my post
> partum blues were riding high, I probably wouldn't have made it out of the
> room before I started sobbing.  Fortunately, my OB GYN doc prescribed a 3
> week supply of "happy" pills and I have been feeling a little better.
> UGH...will this ever get better???
>
>
>
> Brenda, wife to Rich, mommy to Matthew Alexander (20 months) and Grace
> Alexandra (^i^ 8/31/03) T-13
>
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