[tri-wings] Re: UGH - will this ever get better?

(((((Brenda)))))

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From: Thomas, Brenda L. [mailto:blthomas@xxxxxxxx]=20
Sent: Wednesday, October 15, 2003 9:48 PM
To: 'tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx'
Subject: [tri-wings] UGH - will this ever get better?


I just left a meeting at work just as I was about to start sobbing.  Part=
=20of my job is to work on the OB-GYN electronic medical record - which I=
=20didn't think I would be able to work on again after I delivered Grace,=
=20but it truly has been fine.  The other part of my job is to create thi=
s database where people in our hospital keep track of any disclosures of =
protected health information (because of a recent Federal law that starte=
d in April).  This part has also been fine until today.  We had to meet w=
ith the birth certificate folks to discuss whether they were going to be =
entering a record under mom and the baby, baby only or mom only.  Well, d=
uring this conversation they started talking about when a birth certifica=
te would not been done - and how they don't do one if the baby is still b=
orn and they don't do one if the baby was only a certain amount of weeks =
along, etc.  For those of you that don't know...I wasn't able to do a bir=
th or death certificate for Grace (which means I couldn't legally name he=
r) because I was only 17 weeks along and they don't do either certificate=
=20in Texas until the baby is 20+ weeks.  Which of course made me feel li=
ke no one considered her a real baby.
=20

Oh my goodness...I started to feel this heat in my body that started at m=
y toes and started rising through my body.  I finally just got up, grabbe=
d my pager and left the room.  Then sobbed all the way back to my desk.  =
Then of course, I felt like I was totally unprofessional and probably mad=
e everyone in the meeting feel terrible or uncomfortable for the discussi=
on (most everyone in there knew about my recent loss). =20

=20

On a good note...had this have been a week and a half ago, when my post p=
artum blues were riding high, I probably wouldn't have made it out of the=
=20room before I started sobbing.  Fortunately, my OB GYN doc prescribed =
a 3 week supply of "happy" pills and I have been feeling a little better.=
=20UGH...will this ever get better???

=20

Brenda, wife to Rich, mommy to Matthew Alexander (20 months) and Grace Al=
exandra (^i^ 8/31/03) T-13 =20

=20

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