Nikia, I'm so sorry for your loss. We had our little Rose for an hour and twenty-one minutes. She also had trisomy 13. As everyone has already said, the pain does lessen over time. I will never be the same since we had Rose. November is usually the hardest time of year for me, because that's when her birthday/angel day is. This year she would have been 7. It's hard to believe that it was that long ago already. I still miss her, and I always will. One thing that helps me get through it is knowing that she was loved her whole life. Another thing that helps me is having a strong faith and support system.with family, friends, church, and this list. I don't talk often in here, but it was a real help to me, especially at first. It helps to know that we aren't alone. Be good to yourself, and let yourself grieve. I know how we, as mothers, feel that we have to always be strong for our children. It has helped my children, who were almost 2 years old and almost 3 years old when Rose blessed our lives, to see pictures of Rose, and to see and hear us express our feelings for her. Thanks to this group and SOFT, my children have learned to associate rainbows and butterflies with their sister. Love ya! Karen .Mom of Elizabeth, Ned, Grace, and Rose Marie Sours 11/18/99 - 11/18/99 T-13 ~: > (http://snugglepie.com/) Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line