[tri-wings] Trisha

Trisha

Its not often i come out of lurk these days, but reading your message has 
done it.  I just wanted to reach out and hug you.  I cant say more than 
that.

I dont know how any of us have coped with the loss of our precious little 
ones.  Someone asked me that the other day "How on Earth do you cope, how on 
Earth do you get through it?"  TO be honest, I have absolutely no idea how 
Ive managed.  18 months ago, i was feeling just what you are now.  I was 
lost, hurting with an unimaginable pain that i thought would never leave me. 
  Lonely for a child I never knew outside the womb.  Numb for the 
uncertainty of my future.  Angry, crazy.  I dont need to go on.

But someone we all make it in the end.  There is no magic mystery, no 
remedy, no "way of handling it".  Some people busy themselves.  Other people 
sit still (me!).  Some people get angry, some blame themselves, some blame 
everyone else.  Some people sit back and wait.  Some people try for another 
baby, some people cant face the thought.  Some people cope.  Some people 
think they cope and then dont.  And others think they arent coping when 
really they are.

Whatever gets you through the day and onto the next one, is the only way I 
have ever found of describing what makes us get up each morning and get 
through each day.  Just whatever you need to do that day.  And one day you 
feel it wasnt quite as awful as the one before.

Just know that we are all here for you, people will give you support when 
you never expected it from them.  Just take time to collect your thoughts 
and to get to know yourself again.  And one day, it will be a little better.

Love and hugs


Demi
Mummy to ickle angel Connor Adam (full T18 - 11th June 2001)
http://www.geocities.com/demipowell/index




>
>  how do you guys make it through, I can't handle any of this.
>I'm just angry all the time. I don't want to live like that,
>but I can't get passed it. I don't want it to be like this, i
>want my son back. I can't handle not having him. No one here
>with me understands, i can't get over what happened. I need something,
>I can't do this. I thought God was supposed to comfort you in
>times like this? I don't feel his comfort. I feel so lost, where
>do I go from here? I don't know what to do.
>  Trisha
>

>******************************
>


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