[tri-wings] Tree of remembrance

 Hello All, I am approaching the one year anniversary of my little boy's
passing.  It has been weighing heavily on my mind.  I am not sure how it is
going to impact me.  I know as it gets closer the emotions and the memories
as well as the sense of loss are getting stronger.   I wanted to try to do
something in his honor and to focus on the joy he brought during his short
time with us.  I know I cannot avoid the sadness, but I don't want to get
swallowed up by grief.  I wanted to try to celebrate his life and the many
others he touched while he was with us.  There is a local park that puts out
a Christmas village display each year.  It is very festive and fun for the
kids and us big kids too.  I took my daughter last year as I tried to
celebrate Christmas and restore some normalcy for her after Joey passed.  We
looked at the trees as we walked down the path and noticed they were
dedicated to individuals, families, organizations, etc.  I had commented
thenthat it might be nice to decorate a tree for our Joey for all to see. 
Myintention was to invite all to decorate it with pictures and messages.  I
had hoped to get pictures of other children like Joey and Marina born with a
Trisomy to show the many faces and families of Trisomy.  So many will never
meet our children or understand our journeys.  I hoped to bring just a
littlemore awareness as people wandered by his tree and saw our kids. 
Anyway, I was disappointed to learn that there is a waiting list for next
year to have a tree and there was no way of getting one for our Joey this
year.  I know it may sound silly and trivial, but the news knocked me down. 
I was in a panic to hold onto something uplifting in his honor rather than
fall back into the pit of depression.  I couldn't even think of plan B. 
Luckily family and friends reached out to me and offered advice.  We are
placing a tree in front of our home and we will still invite anyone who
wantsto contribute to add an ornament.  We are making it a star theme, but
will accept any ornaments that people want to place.  I had thought that I
would reach out to my online community to send photos, messages, dates
(birth/angel), ages, Trisomy (if applicable).  I would print them in the
shape of a star and laminate them to hang on the tree.  I would welcome any
photos and messages that you want to share.  I attached a photo of my
daughter that will be hung on the tree.  The back of her star will read
"Marina Lee 2/2/99  Full T-21 (Down Syndrome) Loving Big Sister to Joey!"  I
understand if this is too personal to some especially as I am not well known
on the lists as I read more than I post.  These lists have been a life savor
for me.  I can read and feel that there are others who understand, I am not
alone.  If you are interested in sharing a photo of your children or family
and placing a message on Joey's tree, you may email me off list at
lmb268@xxxxxxx[1]  I also have a web journal that I still maintain every so
often on our journey with Joe if you are interested in the link let me know.
I am hoping that Joey's tree will be filled with beautiful stars.  I am
starting the decorating Saturday November 25th and lighting the tree for the
first time on November 27th his one year anniversary.  It is hard to believe
he has been in Heave for a year.  I still look for him and expect to hear
hisvoice.  OK...I am getting weepy now.  I hope this request to help add
stars to Joey's tree is not out of line for the list.  I just think it would
be a beautiful tribute and even more so if it is filled with the many
shiningstars who happen to have an extra chromosome.  We are going to plant
the tree after and hopefully will make a yearly tradition. Peace, Lynn Mom
toMarina Lee 2/2/99 T-21(Down Syndrome) and Our Angel Joey 4/15/04-11/27/05
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