Of course I forgot the most important thing. Talk to them about their child if they want. Let them know how important that their child is and that it is all right to miss them, grieve, scream, cry, shout, and let it out. It is also all right to not want to talk.... everyone grieves differently. Amy and I have been very fortunate in that we always seem to alternate our "down" times. Sometimes we talk about Jessie and others we just might sit, each thinking about her but not saying anything. The funny thing is that even if we don't say anything to one another, we still both know. Jim, husband of Amy, daddy of Amanda ( 10 ), Katherine ( 6 ), and Jessica Nicole ( Full T18- 4/21/99) - our little angel who we love dearly; Pensacola, FL. Meet us at http://www.trisomyonline.org/french.htm Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line