Mandy, I've been lurking but I can't resist: At least you have two others........ You're probably better off...... She's in a much better place..... You can always have another one.... At least you didn't get a chance to know her.... I know how you feel.... You'll get over it. and 2 weeks later You're not over it yet? Of course there are a lot more but those seem to be the main ones I remember. What I always tried to do when someone said that to me was remember that they really didn't have a clue how we felt and they were saying the first or only thing that came to their mind to try to comfort us. They weren't trying to hurt us....... just console us and most of them didn't know how. But of course when we are hurting we don't want to hear any of that. Jim, husband of Amy, daddy of Amanda ( 10 ), Katherine ( 6 ), and Jessica Nicole ( Full T18- 4/21/99) - our little angel who we love dearly; Pensacola, FL. Meet us at http://www.trisomyonline.org/french.htm Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line