-----Original Message----- From: Mandy [mailto:baby2angels2000@xxxxxxxx] Sent: Friday, September 26, 2003 1:31 PM To: tri-wings Subject: [tri-wings] To say or not to say......that's the question!!! <<<I know there are a few lists already in existence but from your own experience what do you think is a good thing to say>>>> I have to think about this one. But, since my loss is so fresh, let me add to the "What not to's" 1. At least you have... (insert the name of the child you already have). Yes, we do have that child, but we wanted and loved the child that we lost. 2. Everything happens for a reason. I think it goes without saying that our lives are in God's hands and that we don't always know his plan. This phrase is so over used and if I have to hear it one more time... Brenda, wife to Rich, mommy to Matthew Alexander (20 months) and Grace Alexandra (^i^ 8/31/03) T-13 Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line