[tri-wings] Re: To Paul (was Introduction newbie here w/loss)

> I'm just a grandpa. There is no way that I can feel the loss that  
> you feel.
> But I've been very much helped by the people on this list. At  
> first, I wrote
> long letters. Don't know if anyone read them, but it was a great  
> help for me
> to express my pain. Sometimes I said things that probably didn't  
> even make sense.
Paul,
You are selling yourself short.  It must be one of those days.  I  
know how much pain you feel, and even though it is not the same as  
the pain of a parent, it is very real.  And you are also grieving for  
your daughter and her loss.  Twice as much to deal with.
Every letter you have written has probably been read over and over by  
most of us on the list.  You always have such a tender heart and  
loving ways about your advice and counsel.  While you were helping  
yourself, you were also helping many others.
Most of the time, I don't know what to say to a mom who has just  
experienced a loss.  You, on the other hand, have always been able to  
come up with the right words.  And my messages are also long.  I  
guess making these fingers move on the keyboard must be a great  
release for my pains and agony.  Today (tonight) I'm feeling so many  
things and the fingers just keep walking.
We consider you our person with words of wisdom.  We are grateful you  
are with us.

Sheila Helleson
MN Grandma to IA and SD grandkids:  Hope (T-18   11-1-1) & Alison;  
Cadence & Bridge
Mom to Cheryl (& Denny);  Wade (& Charity)
Wife to Richard

"Shared joy is double joy, and shared sorrow is half-sorrow."   
Swedish Proverb

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