[tri-wings] Re: Thanks

Hi Maya,

We met briefly at the picnic.  I don't think you are ungrateful at all.

If I have learned anything on this crazy journey, it is that no matter how
much time you had with Mieko - it will never be enough.  It is clear that
you know what a gift it was to have had so much time with her, but I imagine
that knowledge does nothing at the moment to ease the pain of losing her.

Having our Rowan for a day was such a tremendous gift, I know that.  But it
was hard to find gratitude after she died.  That grief after she died was
complete and real, and overshadowed any sense of perspective I might have
found.  Sure, it is a whole lot easier now (almost 9 years later) to
appreciate that time... but back then, it just hurt.

Thinking of you,
Corinne

 

Corinne O'Flynn
Rowan Tree Foundation
www.rowantreefoundation.org
(303) 378-4300


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From: tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx [mailto:tri-wings-bounce@xxxxxxxxxxxxx]
On Behalf Of Maya Nishikawa
Sent: Thursday, July 31, 2008 8:56 AM
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [tri-wings] Re: Thanks

Just wanted to say thank you for all the kind words of support. I know what
I'm feeling is nothing new to the folks on this list. You are an extremely
caring group who really understand and I'm grateful for that. I know it must
sound very ungrateful of me to complain about having only 4 years with Mieko
when we were really blessed. I'm sorry if that seems insensitive. We have
such a long way to go. I am starting counseling next week. My husband won't
be going, but it's nothing I can force. We all grieve differently and I
think I need to start taking the burden off him and have someone else
listen.

Thanks again to everyone for being there and listening and also for the hugs
I received at the picnic.  I'm sure I will be needing more help and advice
in the coming days and months.

Maya
Mom to Mieko T18 3/9/04 -7/11/08




> (((((Maya)))) I know it's hard, you and Shawn did
> everything for Mieko, she was loved!  Give yourselves time,
> take it one day at a time, sometimes you may have to do
> hours at a time.  


      
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