[tri-wings] Re: Stages of grief - Tiffany & Corrine

on 7/21/04 5:08 PM, Tiffany Killcreas <tiffanyk@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
> I've finally been able to put the ugly monster away which reminded me of the
> last few days of Ashley's life.  That has helped tremendously.  I can't say
> the same for Chad though, he is enduring an extraordinary amount of grief.  I
> think he is just starting to let down that wall and allow the reality to set
> in.  It breaks my heart.
on 7/21/04 2:01 AM,  Mum2haley@xxxxxxx wrote:
> I think that I have dealt with this incredibly well, but I admit that its
> because I burried my feelings.   Her life and death have transformed me into
> such a better person.  ~Thank you my angel, mommy loves you~ Thank for
> listening....
> Corinne

> Please don't be afraid to mention my child, thinking you will upset me. I
> would rather cry tears of rememberence, than cry alone, thinking everyone has
> forgotten

Tiffany & Corrine,
I can see a common thread in your messages.  Chad is enduring a lot of grief
6 months after Ashley got her wings.  And Corrine, you buried your feelings
in order to survive on a daily basis.  I think this is what a lot of people
do.  I know my son-in-law did.  He was there for support for her to begin
with, but then Cheryl didn't know how to help him when he needed it and he
didn't know how to ask for help.  Then, when Cheryl was ready to talk and
move on, Denny was stll in the deep grief.  It almost destroyed them.
REMEMBER to support each other.  We will all be here, too.

And Corrine, I love your closing signature!  I mention Hope whenever I get
the chance.  

Sheila
MN Grandma to 4:  Hope  T-18  (Nov. 1,2001), Cadence, 3+, Bridge - Leap Day
Baby, and Hope's brother or sister due in August, 2004.
Mom to Cheryl (& Denny) & Wade (& Charity).
Wife to Richard who is giving me lots of support with therapy, meals, and
laundry - hurray!!!





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