[tri-wings] Re: Sharon/Mandy

Sharon and Mandy,

> I suppose it wouldv'e been different if she had taken
> one breath

Do not beat yourself up on this "If only", Jordan lived for 9 hours after
birth.  Most of our family(very large family)and friends just pretends like
it never happened.  The death of a child makes people very, very, very
uncomfortable.  If they are a parent themselves, we are living their worse
nightmare!  If they are not parents, they do not understand the love that a
parent has for the child, at any stage of their life.  I have found, for
reasons I do not know because if I did I would bottle it and give it to
everyone, that some people have and show compassion very easily.  Others may
have it, but do not know how to show it, which does not help us.

I remember a friend of mine told me she wished that she had done an open
casket at her son's funeral.  She thought by doing so maybe people would
have thought he was more real and therefore treated her better.  I told her
I had an open casket for that very reason.  To show the many family members
and friends, who never got to meet Jordan in person, that she was real and
not just a story that folks tell.  I told her what she is going through with
her friends and family members is what am going through as well.  So
ultimately, it did not matter open casket vs closed casket.

(((HUGS to you both))))

Take care, Jan(Proud mother of Jordan), Jonathan-9 years old, Jasmine-5
years old, and Jillian born 11-29-00(Proud siblings of Jordan), and
John(Proud daddy of Jordan)

"A person is a person, no matter how small."
Dr. Seuss

"Even the smallest person can change the course of the future."
Lord of the Rings

Our love is not measured by the time we had, but by what will be felt in our
hearts forever.
http://pages.prodigy.net/janjohn83/jordan.htm
Jordan's Page - Born/Died July 5, 1999



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