"Paul Farmer" <pfarmer@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
>The people on this list are so wonderful. I don't say much and have been more
>of a lurker
than a
>participator but I do read most of the posts and I've often cried and offered
>prayers for
you when I
>read them.
You have been missed. SH
This is the part I liked best:
>"By acknowledging the ones that we can't enjoy anymore, it lets us be "real."
>Like the
velveteen rabbit,
>we become approachable. No one is immune from the pain of losing a loved one.
>It
certainly puts our
>materialistic lifestyle into a different perspective."
>I was right about one thing though, the people on this list are so gentle and
>kind.
>Grandpa Paul
>From Kansas
I wrote a long message at home today, then, it just disappeared. I don't have
time to
re-write, but I
want you to know that I didn't think that you had changed what I understood you
to say
from the first
message to the second. I am so grateful that you are on this board. And I was
afraid
that you had left.
Thanks for your support.
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"Mandy" <baby2angels2000@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
>My answer is "I have 2 sons and one daughter here with me and two sons waiting
>for me in
Heaven."
>Some reasons that helped me to come to my decision on telling everyone at all
>times that
I have five
>children are it helps them stay alive in other people's hearts and minds( I am
>so scared
that I will be
>the only one who remembers them),it allows others to know that sometimes
>babies do die(I
>thought they all lived until five years ago),it teaches my other children that
>they are
not the only ones
>(Matt and Charlotte know that but Alfie will learn over time)and no matter
>what, I'll
always remember
>their brothers.I hope that,it will teach them that I would always say their
>name and
remember
>them if ,God forbid, they should die too.
This is exactly my fear. I don't want anyone to forget that Hope existed. I
want people
to know how
much she changed our lives. Yet, to the casual asker, I'm sure they don't
care.
Thanks so much for the variety of answers you gave. I appreciate all of them.
Thanks.
SH
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"Kim Jorgenson" <kgjorg@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
>Here's what I generally say: I had five children over 19 years; the oldest
>is almost 29
and the
>youngest should have been 10 this fall. If they want to ask, they can.
>Gloria--mommy to angel Erin
Gloria, I like your answer, too. I works great for you, but for me as a
grandmother with
Hope in the
middle, I guess I would have to change it to something like this. I have had 4
grandchildren: the
oldest is about 3.5 years old. The youngest is 1 month. And Hope should have
been 3 in
November.
Thanks. SH
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