[tri-wings] Re: Regan Meier a true angel baby......thank you for sharing her story

Hi Lace4blitz (I'm sorry I couldn't find your first name)

My baby girl is gone almost 3 years now, and I can say from experience 
the number of bad days you have will lessen in time.  Not that time 
heals, just that time gives you the strength to keep on going through 
adversity.  Your loss is still fresh, and it's OK to have so many hard 
days, and it's OK to be angry with God.  I was for a long time, and my 
husband more so after Arily passed away, and my mother in law died only 
10 short weeks later, leaving him completely devastated.  I think God is 
OK with being used as a scape goat when we're suffering emotionally, He 
knows that what we think and say is in anger due to the pain we feel.  
It's not fair that our babies are taken away, and it's hard not having 
anyone or anything to blame for the pain that comes with the loss of a 
child.  Sometimes, blaming God makes us feel a little better.
I only gained strength from my loss by listening to others here in 
Tri-Wings, and a couple of other support groups online, but it's taken a 
long time to get to a point where I'm at peace with her loss, and can 
cope easily on a daily basis.  I still have my bad days, I doubt I'll 
ever get to a point where I'll never shed another tear, but sometimes, 
I'm thankful for those bad days in the long run, it makes me feel that 
I'm sparing my baby girl the thought that she deserves during my hectic 
life that barely gives me time otherwise.
Try to take it easy on yourself, what you're feeling is so perfectly 
normal.  Eventually, it does get easier, and you'll find yourslef here, 
sharing your story with a newly bereaved mother who feels that you, too, 
are a true inspiration to parents suffering a recent loss

(((((((HUGS)))))))

Jean


-- 
Mum to Arily Faith, born asleep, July 8th, 2006
and to Conor, born June 21st, 2007
Our little bean due June 17th, 2009


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