[tri-wings] Re: Please be careful (for Sheila)

Sheila,
Thank you for those words.  My husband and I decided to terminate the pregnancy 
for so many reasons.   I would have loved to have met my daughter.  I would 
have loved to watch her grow up and live.  But it was not in the cards for us.  
So many factors prohibited this.
Now, it doesn't mean that I don't ache ever single day.  I gave birth to a 
beautiful little girl who will be forever in my heart.  Some gave birth to 
children who are with them every day. And some have lost those children.  It 
doesn't mean that our pain is any different.

I still support those who chose to continue and I support those who chose not 
to.  Everyone's life is different.  We should look past the differences and 
just embrace each other for the losses and the suffering that we have all 
endured.

Karen




--- On Tue, 8/12/08, Sheila Helleson <hellesos@xxxxxx> wrote:
From: Sheila Helleson <hellesos@xxxxxx>
Subject: [tri-wings] Re: Please be careful
To: tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Date: Tuesday, August 12, 2008, 2:44 AM

Hi everyone,

> Considering the rate of termination

I'm sorry if I hurt someone's feelings.  This is not meant to be  
mean.  I know that I might just get in trouble with this, but I have  
to bring it up.  Those who have terminated their pregnancy have been  
invited and are on the lists.  They may also be looking for support  
and have found the Trisomy Lists here.  Losing a child to termination  
is/can be just as hard as losing one any other way.  Compassion is  
our chief responsibility, and expressing our thoughts against  
terminating does not evoke compassion.  Some of the people who have  
given me the most support or that I have supported have terminated  
their pregnancy - sometimes at the urging of the medical staff, but  
not always.  Some of these same people are no longer here to share  
their feelings because they have been hurt by other postings.  All of  
us hurt.  That's why we are here.  I'm not saying that you cannot  
talk about your feelings, but please be aware that there are people  
here who may feel differently.   Maybe just a word or two in the  
subject area would be appropriate so that those posts could be skipped.

Just a thought.


With Love and Caring for All of You,
Sheila Helleson               Minnesota Grandma to:
Hope (T-18 ^i^ 11-1-1) & Alison; Cadence and Bridge
Mom to Cheryl (& Denny);  Wade (& Charity)
Wife to Richard

"Shared joy is double joy, and shared sorrow is half-sorrow."   
Swedish Proverb

Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is a beauty, admire it.  
Life is a dream, realize it. Life is a challenge, meet it. Life is a  
duty, complete it. Life is a game, play it. Life is a promise,  
fulfill it. Life is sorrow, overcome it. Life is a song, sing it.  
Life is a struggle, accept it. Life is a tragedy, confront it. Life  
is an adventure, dare it. Life is luck, make it. LIFE IS LIFE, FIGHT  
FOR IT! - Mother Teresa

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