[tri-wings] Please See Me Through My Tears

 Please See Me Through My Tears
> You asked, "How are you doing?"
>
> As I told you, tears came to my eyes...and you
> looked away and quickly began to talk again.
> All the attention you had given me had drained away.
> "How am I doing?" I do better when people listen,
> though I may shed a tear or two.
> This pain is indescribable. If you've never known it, you
> cannot fully understand.
> Yet I need you.
> When you look away,
> I am again alone with it.
> Your attention means more than you can ever know.
>
> Really, tears are not a bad sign, you know!
> They're nature's way of helping me to heal.
> They relieve some of the stress of sadness
> ....but you are wrong.
> The memory of my loved one's death will always be with me,
> Only a thought away.
> My tears make my pain more visible to you, but you did not
> give me the pain...it was already there.
>
> When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless, Not knowing what to do?
> You are not helpless,
> And you don't need to do a thing but be there.
> When I feel your permission to allow my tears to flow,
> you've helped me
> You need not speak. Your silence as I cry is all I need.
> Be patient...do not fear.
> Listening with your heart to "how I am doing" relieves the pain
> for when the tears can freely come and go, I feel lighter.
>
> Talking to you releases what I've wanted to say aloud,
> clearing space
> for a touch of joy in my life.
>
> I'll cry for a minute or two... and then I'll wipe my eyes
> and sometimes you'll even find I'm laughing later.
>
> When I hold back the tears, my throat grows tight,
> my chest aches, my stomach knots...
> because I'm trying to protect YOU from my tears.
> Then we both hurt ME, because my pain is held inside,
> a shield against our closeness and YOU,
> because suddenly we are distant.
>
> So please, take my hand and see me through my tears...
> then we can be close again.
>  Author Unknown ~

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