[tri-wings] Re: Platitudes

Hi all, 

Its been a while since i last posted.  Things have been pretty busy. I will 
post an update soon but just wanted to touch on some of the thing that were 
said to me

From the Dr who released Brendan from the hospital:
 
If he stops breathing don't call 911 call the funeral home.

From my mother in law (who btw lost a son when he was 30)

Just hope he doesn't live too long so you don't get too attached


>You know it often amazes me that people can grief for their parents for what
>seems like years...but when it comes to babies they think just because they
>were not here for years that "you need to get over it"  Just
>amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I strongly believe that it is a part of life to
>loose your parents or grandparents even brothers and sisters...but not your
>children...no matter how old they may be!
>Sorry that your friend seems to forget that they were and still are a HUGE
>part of your life and you will always MISS THEM!!!!!
>
>Hugs,

I totally agree with you and never thought I would have heard something similar 
from my husband.  This past weekend we were doing the christmas cards (a bit 
late) and I was ordering them with the usual tag line Love the Rooney's John, 
Michelle, Michael, Caitlin, Siobhan and Our angel Brendan.  I turned the 
computer to show John and he asked if we could leave Brendan off the card.  I 
was so stunned, but I did it to please him.  Let me tell you how eart sick I 
was.  I was so angry with him for asking and even more angry that I did it.  I 
cried and cried.  On Sunday morning I got up and he was like are you talking to 
me yet I yell at him the I needed to do the card over and include Brendan on it 
and that was the only way I was going to feel better.  We went to church and 
when we got back he apologised and said that he didn't mean to hurt me and that 
if I wanted to do it over that it would be ok.  I did.  New picture and new tag 
will be mailed today.

Thank You for listening
Mikki

Mikki (Michelle) Rooney wife to John (12 years)
Mom of Michael (12), Caitlin (9), Siobhan (6) and
Our Sweet Angel Brendan T-13 (08/02/01-01/25/05)
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