Hi Everybody
I have not written in a while on the list, but have reading all the mails
that came through. Regarding the new topic of platitudes.
It angers me when I think of all these people who came and "try" to say
things to make it "better".
When I fell pregnant with Cydne we did not know until her birth that she had
Trisomy 13. None of the sonar's showed any defects, etc.
At this stage I had no contact with my parents due to a family fight 10
years earlier when I fell pregnant at the age of 20. (I was not married at
the time and they wanted me to go for an abortion which I refused to do and
they chased me away) Sorry just wanted to give you background.
Well when Cydne was on her "last" in hospital my aunt thought that it was
time for me and my parents to re-unite. And what a shocker when my mom (who
is a qualified dr) asked why they let her live at birth!!!! In her days (she
is 60) when babies were born with defects they let them peacefully go.
The day Cydne went back to heaven my mom did not even shed a tear and
without blinking said: I told you this is going to happen. My husbands
mother decided that it is my fault because I used medication (drugs) during
the pregnancy and that is why Cydne was born with a defect. (I NEVER used
any medication or drugs during the duration of my pregnancy only after her
death did I use a sedative to help me cope with it)
Friends of ours said that luckily she did not get old otherwise it would
have been more painful. How they got to that one heaven only knows. Or don't
worry time will heel all the pain. No it doesn't you learn to live with the
pain.
So we can go on and on. Sorry to have packed off but I had to get it off my
chest,
Michele mother to ^i^ Cynde T13 (02/05/02 - 26/09/02) Chiante 2 yrs 11
months and wife to Rudi
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