I try to remember that with other people--to go > back a few weeks or months later and let them know I'm still thinking of > them. That's so thoughtful. I certainly have changed the way I treat people after a death also. It certainly changes your life. I have to continue to remind myself that unless you've gone through it you have no idea what it feels like. That's why I love that poem that is on Sue's site (and now mine) titled "They Don't Know What to Say" lotsoflove Deanna~~~ wife to Mike, mom to Nicole 14, Jake 10, and Jessica (our precious T18 angel) 5/04/02 meet Jessica @ http://home.att.net/~warpehoski (full t18) Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line