[tri-wings] Re: Not quite a therapy question~Deanna


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From: "Deanna Warpehoski" <warpehoski@xxxxxxx>
> Does anybody else feel that the hardest grieving time is not right after
> the funeral but rather a few months out?

I totally agree with you here.  You are normal.  Although we are now 6 years
down that road and the bad days are certainly fewer, the worst time for me
was a few months after losing Susanna.  I started to feel that every day was
another day longer since I held her in my arms.  Actually I still feel like
that but my ache was so strong back then...  And all those fresh memories I
wrote down so I would never forget them.  You think you will never forget
but as time goes on some things do slip your mind, so I wrote them all
down - everything I could remember.

We took a video of  Susanna when she was with us and I used to look at it
all the time.  I haven't watched it for years now though because it hurts
too much.  And I haven't sat down to read those memories for a long time
either because it hurts too much also - but I know that one day I will want
to and one day I will want to share all of Susanna with Laura and Clare.

Sue
Proud Mum to 3 beautiful daughters: Susanna (in Heaven T18), Laura (3 1/2)
and Clare (1).
Wife to John
Portland, Victoria, Australia
Susanna's pages: http://members.datafast.net.au/susan/susanna/susanna.htm
Laura's pages: http://members.datafast.net.au/susan/laura12/laura12.htm
Clare's pages: http://members.datafast.net.au/susan/clare4/clare4.htm

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