[tri-wings] Re: No one remembered

Dear Stacy,
               it is easier for others to forget a day like that because they 
are not in your particular situation and it is not fair, in our aspect of the 
word, to just remember the ones living on they're birthday's. but we remember 
and to our loved one, that would be all that matters. yes it would be the 
courteous thing for a friend or loved one to call and comfort you on a day like 
that but the way i see it is, maybe they feel guilty by bringing it up, like 
they are reopening an old wound. I doubt it's for lack of compasion it's 
probobly they're compasion that keeps them from wanting to hurt you further! If 
it will help any from one trisomy mom to another, even after 8 yrs it's ok to 
miss them and hurt for them, it's natural; but also know that they would not 
want us tormenting ourselves either. my thoughts and prayers are with you and 
your family take care of yourself . God bless.
 
   Mom to Ashley(10) and my angel and best friend Alyssa(12-12-99 -- 05-02-01) 
full T-18.

S Folkner <eeyore1996@xxxxxxx> wrote:
Yesterday was Leslie's 8 year angel/birthday. My parents were the ONLY ones who 
even acknowledged it. Sometimes I feel like maybe I should just forget, but how 
can I? I was the most disappointed that my best friend couldn't even bother to 
pick up the phone just to call to say hi. She would be rather angry if I forgot 
Christopher, Courtney or Callie's birthdays. Why is it that we are expected to 
remember other living childrens birthdays, but they somehow forget our angels?? 
Maybe I am just being selfish but frankly I don't care. It is hard enough that 
Leslie was born on my Dad's birthday, and that I am expected to put aside any 
sad feelings to celebrate with my dad, which don't get me wrong, I wouldn't 
miss Dad's birthday, but it is so hard. I just don't know how to deal with 
this. It seems to get worse, not easier every year. 
Thanks for letting me vent. 
Stacey
Mommy to an angel
Leslie Serina November 20,1996
T-9
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