People are SO insensitive!!! One of my favourites..."but you were expect= ing it!!" (No, I wasn't) Kathy s -----Original Message----- From: Mandy [mailto:baby2angels2000@xxxxxxxx] Sent: Sunday, July 27, 2003 2:48 PM To: tri-wings Subject: [tri-wings] New therapy question We must have all experienced someone saying something really dumb followi= ng our loss(es) so I thought maybe we could try something along the lines= =20of What is the dumbest thing you heard? how did it make you feel then and wh= at was your response and would it be different now (i.e months/years lat= er). I know there are similar questions floating around but this one is a prod= uct of our lying in bed Sunday morning "chat".(ok enough detail LOL)Baz w= as telling me that not long after Katie gained her wings, they donated al= l of her little toys to the doctors surgery and one day he went and was s= itting there when some stupid guy pulled his daughter away from the toys = and told her " those are dead children's toys ...don't play with them". B= az was still very much in the early stages of his grief,and rather than k= nocking the guy from one week to the next, he shrank into his seat and s= aid nothing but died inwardly.He said this morning that if it had happene= d now (16 years down the line)he would have dealt with it very differentl= y.I asked if he meant he would resort to violence and he said no but he w= ould have to say something and not just shrink away. The dumbest thing anyone said to me (or at least in earshot) was that my = boys had been taken because of Steve being gay.When I heard it I chose to= =20say nothing because I knew I would cry and that wasn't a good idea.Hea= ring it now and I think I would probably ask them why my other two childr= en were allowed to live then (same dad).!!! Not sure if this going to help or hurt or both but feel free to share or = to keep quiet......no pressure at all hugs Mandy, mum to Matthew(10),Charlotte (9) and my two angels Gareth (t18 ^i^= =2014/11/99)and Dominic (CH ^i^ 23/7/00) ,England,UK http://www.geocities.com/baby2angels2000 =20 Some stop chasing rainbows,for they think they aren't real, But they aren't something you can touch,they're something you must feel..= ."=20 =20 Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows =20 www.trisomyonline.org =20 Families Helping Families On-line =93This e-mail is sent on the Terms and Conditions that can be accessed b= y Clicking on this link http://www.vodacom.net/legal/email.asp " Building ___ooOOoo__ Rainbows www.trisomyonline.org Families Helping Families On-line