[tri-wings] Re: New therapy question

hi one of the many things that sent me flying was
well you look goo i am not sure if i should of been wearing sack clothes
uncombed hair  or what but it made me feel like i could not look nice
because i felt like a dried up piece of somthing ready to snapinsideand
truthly to actually face the outside world i had to the mask of coping not
to burden those who so easily carried on with there world when mine had
fallen apart.
any way i am Taryn's mum  this is my first mail
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Mandy" <baby2angels2000@xxxxxxxx>
To: "tri-wings" <tri-wings@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
Sent: Sunday, July 27, 2003 10:47 PM
Subject: [tri-wings] New therapy question


> We must have all experienced someone saying something really dumb
following our loss(es) so I thought maybe we could try something along the
lines of
> What is the dumbest thing you heard? how did it make you feel then and
what was your response  and would it be different now (i.e months/years
later).
> I know there are similar questions floating around but this one is a
product of our lying in bed Sunday morning "chat".(ok enough detail LOL)Baz
was telling me that not long after Katie gained her wings, they donated all
of her little toys to the doctors surgery and one day he went and was
sitting there when some stupid guy pulled his daughter away from the toys
and told her " those are dead children's toys ...don't play with them". Baz
was still very much in the early stages of his grief,and rather than
knocking the guy from one week to the next,  he shrank into his seat and
said nothing but died inwardly.He said this morning that if it had happened
now (16 years down the line)he would have dealt with it very differently.I
asked if he meant he would resort to violence and he said no but he would
have to say something and not just shrink away.
>
> The dumbest thing anyone said to me (or at least in earshot) was that my
boys had been taken because of Steve being gay.When I heard it I chose to
say nothing because I knew I would cry and that wasn't a good idea.Hearing
it now and I think I would probably ask them why my other two children were
allowed to live then (same dad).!!!
>
> Not sure if this going to help or hurt or both but feel free to share or
to keep quiet......no pressure at all
> hugs
>
> Mandy, mum to Matthew(10),Charlotte (9) and my two angels Gareth (t18 ^i^
14/11/99)and Dominic (CH ^i^ 23/7/00) ,England,UK
>
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>
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> But they aren't something you can touch,they're something you must
feel..."
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