[tri-wings] Re: My granddaughter, Catherine Renee, born sleeping

Hi Sheila,

     Thanks so much for responding to my plea.  Your
right, it is so hard right now.  I've always tried not
to be an interfering Mom or Mother in Law so its
really hard to try and give them their space when you
see them hurting so much.  My daughter and my son in
law who is almost like my son, are very strong people,
emotionally, intellectually, and spiritual but my
sister in law(husband's sister) also lost a set of
twins 15 years ago and she told me that right now she
in the crying stage but to be aware of when the
depression stage sets in.  Thats what scares me.  I
just needed to know if that should happen, what do I
look for and how do I help.  My daughter and I are
very close.  She's my best friend.  Hopefully, with
God's help, I'll know what to do if that time comes.  

     Thanks so much for responding.  My daughter has
been on a Trisomy 18 Support Group on Line for several
months and has really helped her. The people here on
this website such as yourself have really been a help
to me.  Thanks again and will stay in touch.  Pat, Ma
Ma to Catherine Renee'.

--- Sheila Helleson <hellesos@xxxxxx> wrote:

> On Apr 24, 2006, at 1:03 AM,  Pat Schexnider
> <pschex55@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
> 
> > Are there any grandparents of Trisomy angels that
> > could maybe e-mail me with suggestions of help? 
> We
> > just buried our little angel, Catherine. and I am
> so
> > worried about my daughter and her husband.  If
> there
> > are any grandmothers out there, please contact me.
> > Pat (Ma Ma to Catherine Renee).  Thanks.
> 
> Dear Pat,
> I'm so sorry for your double loss.  I know the
> feeling of not knowing  
> how to help my daughter and son-in-law deal with my
> granddaughter's  
> birth and death in one. I was so much grieving with
> my daughter that  
> I almost couldn't grieve for my granddaughter myself
> at the time.   
> That is probably why I'm still here.  Hope was born
> still on November  
> 1, 2001 - not too long after 9-11.  (My s-i-l was in
> Pennsylvania on  
> a business trip when that plane went down - about 40
> miles away.)
> 
> I'm glad that you are here.  I will also respond to
> you personally.   
> There are some terrific grandparents on the list -
> Thank you, Darcy.  
> My daughter had found the list on Trisomy 18 during
> her pregnancy.  I  
> also found it, but it made her very uncomfortable
> that I was reading  
> her posts.  I finally switched to this list.  (I
> don't think that  
> there are too many, if any, both moms and their
> mothers or dads on  
> the list.  Maybe they all feel the same way??!!??) 
> I've been very  
> happy here with the support.  Everyone is wonderful.
>  And I'm so  
> sorry that you have to be here.  Paul is a
> grandfather who has great  
> insight for us.  Hopefully, he will come on and give
> you words of  
> wisdom, too.  There are several other wonderful
> grandmothers.
> 
> You are so new in your loss.  I guess right now my
> advice would be to  
> just be around your kids.  Let them know that you
> are there - by  
> phone if you cannot be there physically.  And give
> them lots of hugs,  
> let them cry, and definitely talk about your
> granddaughter, Catherine  
> Renee.  What a pretty name!  My daughter's middle
> name is Renee.  We  
> wanted the accent over the one e.  The birth
> certificate people told  
> us that they couldn't do that.  :**)  But we used it
> anyway.
> 
> Welcome!  (((((((((Pat)))))))))
> 
> Sheila Helleson
> MN Grandma to Iowa and South Dakota grandchildren
> Hope (T-18   11-1-1) & Alison; Cadence & Bridge
> Mom to Cheryl (& Denny);  Wade (& Charity)
> Wife to my complete support, Richard
> 
> "Those who wish to sing always find a song." 
> Swedish Proverb
> 
> 
> 
> 
> 
> 
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> 


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