[tri-wings] Lisa Updates

Dear Group,

Guess as I have been offline for a good 6 mths I might also like to update you 
all on the fact that Tony (my hubby) and I have worked though a whole range of 
issues that have plagued us for the past 5 yrs since losing Sofie.
In the past 6 mths he has really opened up in his grief and all those times I 
thought he didn't care I now know that he really did not know how to cope with 
the loss let alone a wife who shut the door on him in so many ways . I guess it 
gets back to the left brain right brain theory with men and women and lets face 
it they do not think like us ( or mine anyway).
We have finally talked through some of our grief  issues and maybe this is why 
all our pains have resurfaced , maybe now that he has decided to share his pain 
with mine we have begin to grief together as a couple not just as two different 
beings in the house.
Has this been easy,,,,NO. We have almost gotten to the I don't want to do this 
part of our marriage and quite frankly 6 mths ago I was out that door as I 
could not walk this road alone anymore. I was so tired of carrying so much pain 
and then having the one person that I love so dearly in the world just walk 
away as I cried my tears. Lots of talking, and communicating has helped us so 
much.
We have also found out through a medical specialist that it is perfectly safe 
for us to have another child and that the life threatening problems I had when 
I deliver Dion were not pregnancy related and that it would be safe for us to 
have another baby.
This would be fantastic if he had not had a vasectomy so we are in the process 
of waiting to see out IVF specialist in July (fingers crossed) and they believe 
they can help us. We have also been told that they do the chromosome testing 
free of charge at the clinic and they screen for Trisomy 13 in that test. not 
that that would change anything for us it just means perhaps we would be 
prepared better.
Sorry I am blabbering here. I would love to hear some of your stories if you 
would like to email me either in the group or privately on dionex@xxxxxxxxxxx

Lisa
Mummy to Alex (7 almost) Dion (4almost) and Sofie ( 28 days eternally)         

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