[tri-wings] Re: Let me introduce myself

Stacie,
I am so sorry that that Hailey is in heaven. Yes, I do think that the first 
few months are times of reliving the nightmare and the pain, but gently, and 
softly, the beauty replaces the pain and the joy of her life will overshadow 
the 
fear and pain of her death. 

We only had Emma Grace for 13 days, what I would have given for more. So many 
people tell me how strong I am, how well I am doing, yes, I still take care 
of my other kids, my house, my job etc... but the hole that Emma left when she 
died will never completely go, I know this. It is just that I have gotten more 
used to the feeling of her being missing and my missing her. I find myself 
thinking more of the beauty of her life and the hope, love and joy we felt and 
less of the pain of her passing, and the nightmare we faced trying to get her 
help. She has only been gone 6 months. 

The best advice I can give you is to be gentle on yourself, cry when you need 
to, yell and scream when you need to and know it is ok to still laugh when 
you need to. I found my local SHARE loss group very helpful and still attend 
every month. I also found a grief counselor that I met with every few weeks for 
the first 4 months or so. It was so nice to just talk about my feelings, no 
matter what they were and no matter how appropriate they seemed to me at the 
time. I find the online support here and at other sites very helpful and have 
met 
other families with both children here on earth and in heaven and there is 
just nothing like talking to another mom who truly understands, in person. 

I too am in Florida, only on the other coast, Naples. My sister in law lives 
in Fort Pierce, so we are practically neighbors. Let me know if you ever head 
over to this side and we can get together.

You are in my thoughts and my prayers, 

Bess Raulerson
Naples, FL
mom to Ben, Jake, Zack, Chloe and Emma Grace 12-2-3 to 12-15-3
www.emmagrace.netfirms.com


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