[tri-wings] Kim Shultz-Brenners midwest- misc. long

Kim with our busy household the computer is the last priority.  So thats why it 
has taken me so long to answer your ? on where we are.  We're about 3hrs west 
of Detroit. Are you going to the conference in Chicago?  It's at our back door 
living here in Mich
igan. We're not going. It would be nice to go too the picnic but it's not 
feasible.  We run a summer business that keeps us busy almost every weekend. 

Would you believe I have a neighbor who had a T-13 5yrs ago.  Another family 
who doesn't live to far from us  lost a T-18 the same day our Magdalena died.  
We used the same funeral home and florist.  They had a prenatal dx. where as we 
didn't.  We had heard a little bit about them through someone who went to there 
church.  We met once afterwards. She gave me the book"Mommy Please Don't Cry".  
My son Cameron likes me to read it to him.  He has yet to cry. He's showing his 
grief through his behavior.

Ah that grief.... we are doing okay.  We keep talking and talking and talking.  
I love how open our children are. Even their dad is talking. Much slower..... 
but it's talk. He surprised me one night while I was web surfing for info 
pertaining to our son Cam.  He came and sat beside me and I looked up some 
stuff for him. He is completley modern phobic. He can't stand the cordless 
phone !!!  Well I showed him some sites on T-18, and shared a few stories with 
him... We  were able to work through more of our grief together.  He thinks 
"you just get on with it" it's that stubborn German in him. I keep reminding 
him NOOOO YOU DON'T.  That's how things come back to haunt you. Progress was 
made. I slept much better that night. Peace came to me. I also think to him 
too. 
 
With today being "Memorial Day" here in the good U.S.A.  We visited two 
cemetaries over the weekend. Yesterday we put flowers on my brothers grave.  He 
was killed by a drunk driver in 1978. He was 9. Crossing the road to go 
fishing. He had the right of way.  
We also spent time yesterday with the "outlaws" ( my inlaws). No one asked how 
we were doing or how the kids are doing. My inlaws don't support our pro family 
choices. They try their hardest to cause discord in our family. It's almost as 
if they'd be happier if we were miserable. I keep smiling and praying :).

Today we set Magdalena's stone and planted flowers for her, my father-in-law, 
my husband's brother who was killed in a farming accident when he was 14, and 
my husband's uncle. They are all buried in the same cemetary.  Cameron and I 
went this a.m. and cleaned off their stones. My  husband's families stones had 
moss growing on them so we scrubbed 'em clean.  Cam was so sweet. When we were 
done he looked around and found more stones with moss on them. So.........2 
babies and about 4 adults later we were done. :) He would have done them all 
!!!!!  I chose for us to set Magdalena's stone ourselves. We prayed together, 
and shared. Cam passed as I thought he would. My husband opened up and didn't 
"make us hurry". Which with a 2 yr old and one in a wheelchair you just don't 
do. All in all it was a great day.  I'm sure anyone driving by would've thought 
we were having too much fun.

See I told you this is last on my list.  That's why their so long.  When I 
finally do get time I get it all out !!! If you see our name be prepared for a 
long one !!!!!

Tracey Thank You for adding Magdalena to the slid if your reading this. :)

When is that care package going overseas?? No Oreo's !!!! I wouldn't survive.  
I'm sure the many #'s I need to lose are 1/2 oreo's. lol
 
Well Tri families I must end this very long email.  If I'm going to be somewhat 
human tomorrow I must sleep.

God Bless You and Your Families~
Stan,Dawn,Rebecca,Brittany, Cameron,Maximilian,Magdalena Jeanne Anne T-18 
2-13/3-9-02 Brenners

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